Why Empaths Prefer To Stay Single and Not in Relationships

Why Empaths Prefer To Stay Single and Not in Relationships

“Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors. Be brave. Stay strong. We need all hands on deck.” – Anthon St. Maarten

Empaths and relationships almost never work out. When they fall victim to a narcissistic partner and get gaslighted, they may find it difficult to trust their own instincts. They start doubting their own intuitive abilities and tend to accept their partner’s version of the truth. And this is where the cracks start to surface.

An empath may choose to stay with their partner even after their trust breaks and willingly open themselves up to further emotional pain. But they will enclose themselves inside a protective mental barrier. When trust in the relationship starts to break, empaths will get curious and constantly ask questions to their partners to get the answers they need. And soon the relationship starts to fade away as they feel increasingly unloved and unappreciated.

Relationships can be damaging & detrimental

“As highly sensitive empaths, we are particularly prone to experiencing the Dark Night of the Soul. The less defined our sense of self is and the more toxic energy we take on from others, the more we are prone to losing touch with our Souls.” – Aletheia Luna

Being exceptionally compassionate souls with extraordinary abilities for forgiveness, acceptance, and understanding, empaths can often give too many chances to toxic partners. This may lead to some seriously harmful behavior in the relationship. They can also experience abuse in relationships if their loving nature is perceived as a weakness. This can lead to depression, anxiety, reduced sense of self-worth, and low self-esteem as the empath partner starts absorbing the negative energies of the abusive partner.

Being natural healers, empaths are usually attracted to people who are emotionally wounded and need to be healed. As they absorb their partner’s emotional pain, the empath begins to function at the low vibration that their partner is in. As their wounded partner becomes dependent on the empath for healing and validation, the empath becomes dependent on the other partner to feel worthy, important and needed. This is the perfect set-up for an unhealthy codependent relationship where both partners’ emotional, mental, and physical health gets affected. Unlike a balanced ‘give-and-take’ romantic relationship, the empath ends up giving more than they should while the other partner energetically consumes them almost entirely. This leaves the empath feeling emotionally burnt out, drained and fatigued.

Falling out of love can be easy too

“As an empath, it’s vital that you learn how to hold space for your emotions, even the most painful ones. By anchoring yourself in your breath, you can learn how to witness the emotional energy of others within you, without attaching yourself to this sensations.- Mateo Sol

Absorbing both high and low high vibrational energies from others means that empaths can get intensely attached and completely detached from someone easily. They can effortlessly disconnect from relationships and emotions as soon they are away from their partner. The moment they end a relationship or get separated, an empath will lose the connection regardless of how strong the bonding was. They can easily and instantly walk away without feeling any negative emotions.

Although it can seem cold and heartless, it is mostly instinctive and unintentional. This is one of the main reasons why empaths prefer to stay single and stay away from relationships as they know how intoxicating and contagious someone’s energy can be. They can also hate playing mind games in relationships and can easily see know when someone is pretending or being fake. 

They have a strong disgust for psychological games as empaths are extremely loving and caring individuals who wear their hearts on their sleeves. Moreover, being human lie detectors, they can spot when someone is being disloyal and unfaithful from a mile away. This is extremely infuriating and frustrating for empaths and can lead to a complete breakdown of the relationship. Empaths learn and evolve from relationship to relationship and eventually lose the desire for companionship in order to protect their emotional and mental wellbeing. 

Empaths are highly emotional beings

Empaths and relationships never work out. Something always goes wrong. Whether being too sensitive or emotional or getting attached to a toxic partner, an empath usually fails to experience the type of love and relationship he/she wants in life.

“It is so important for us as empaths to maintain a sense of connectedness with life. When we put up walls to protect ourselves, we end up exhausting, victimizing, and alienating ourselves. It is far more satisfying, effective, and healthy to work with our gifts, rather than against them.” – Aletheia Luna

They are usually vulnerable and mostly think of their hearts. When sharing their deepest feelings, an empath will be raw, honest, and open. But their partners can often get uncomfortable with such brutal honesty and depth in communication. As they fail to communicate their truest and darkest feelings with their partners, empaths withdraw and choose to keep their thoughts and emotions to themselves.

2 thoughts on “Why Empaths Prefer To Stay Single and Not in Relationships”

  1. Interesting article. In my experience as an empath who has attracted her share of narcissists in the past. I worked allot on my shadow while alone, healed from my traumas so I didn’t need to continue attracting destructive patterns by learn lessons. The outcome; a fulfilling loving relationship, one in which we both grow as separate individuals and together..& oh, he happens to be an empath too! 😉

    1. This article is me. Being an empath has made me be a wonderful mother and friend but also causes me alot of mental pain. Most people do not understand me and view me as overly sensitive and too emotional. It takes me ten times longer to recover from negative things because I absorb them so deeply that I have to recover from a lower mental state than most. I feel that being an empath is a very sad existence because we are consumed by our own and others emotional state.

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