4. You will feel better about yourself.
To deem that who you are is not good enough to be loved, and you must therefore be someone else, sucks the life out of you.
It’s very hard to put yourself out there as someone who you are not and to feel good about yourself.
How can you, if you are pretending to be someone you are not, feel good about yourself? How can you look yourself in the mirror and not judge yourself? How can you not walk in after a date and wonder how you are going to keep this up? How will you feel if your person falls in love with someone who doesn’t exist?
And how can you be attracted to someone who doesn’t feel good about themselves? If your self-esteem is low because you aren’t being yourself, you are going to have a hard time attracting the kind of person you want to be with.
Being yourself in a relationship is the best way to keep your self-esteem intact and be attractive to the kind of person you want to be attractive to.
5. You will keep your friends.
This might seem like an odd one, but one of the biggest consequences of not being yourself is that you might lose your friends.
How many times have you, or one of your friends, changed to get or keep a relationship? How frustrating is it to watch them be someone other than who they are, for some girl or some guy? How quickly do you get sick of it and stop hanging out with them and respecting them?
If you want to keep your friends, I would encourage you to be yourself when you are looking for love. You need those friends. They were there before you meet your person and they will be there long after, if the relationship ends.
I know that it’s hard for some people to believe that being yourself is the best way to succeed at finding love.
But being yourself is the best way to find happiness, not only in a relationship but in the world. Being yourself is natural and you are good at it. You will doom the relationship from the start if it’s based on a lie. You can’t have a healthy relationship without honesty. Your self-esteem will plummet, and you won’t be as attractive to others, and you could lose your friends in the whole messy process.
Be yourself. Always. You will be glad you did!