If you were in an environment in your childhood that wasn’t always the happiest or the best, you wanted to make that person, your parent or caregiver, feel better because their mood affected you. You wanted to make everything good because you didn’t know how to navigate seeing that something wasn’t good. A habit you picked up over time was that when something was wrong with someone else, it was your job to fix it.
As an adult when you meet new people, you will always attract what the standard was growing up. You probably know logically that it’s not right, but it’s all you know.
Once you become more mindful and aware of this, you will start to realize what’s for you and what’s not. Being mindful means you get to choose. You must be mindful of the type of relationship you want in your life, what’s your responsibility, and what’s not.
Remember, when we have a partner, they are your partner in life. They are not there for you both to sit on top of each other. Of course, there will be times when you help each other, but there has to be a point where you understand you have to take care of yourself first. When you heal your codependency, you will realize this more. Not every empath is a codependent and not every codependent is an empath, but they often go hand-in-hand.
Written By Stephanie Lyn
Originally Appeared In Stephanie Lyn Life Coaching