Each time that thought comes up, continue observing this with curiosity and judgment-free awareness. The more you observe this thought, it will begin to release itself. Do this type of observation for all thoughts that keep you from knowing your worth.
Situation 5: He tells you and shows you he doesn’t want you
If he is telling and showing you that he doesn’t want you in his life, believe him. If you don’t believe him, you are imagining him to be better than he is and not seeing him and the nature of your relationship for what they are.
What you should do:
Respect yourself – leave so that you can preserve your self esteem.
Respect his choice instead of trying to convince him otherwise. You won’t have to throw yourself or convince the man who is right for you. If a man is the one for you, you will know how he feels and where you stand.
If you are still unsure what to do and have been seeing a guy for a while who isn’t forthcoming about where you stand, your intuition and body knows.
Notice how you feel about yourself when you’re with him, in between the times you see him and when you’re without him.
Walk away if:
1. You don’t feel good about yourself when you’re with him or at the thought of him; or
2. You’re with him because you’re afraid you won’t meet anyone else.
Make your decision by placing more weight on his actions and less weight on his words. If he wants you in his life, he will say and do things that show you are important to him. You won’t have to guess or wonder. You will just know. The man who is right for you won’t keep you in limbo. He will make you a priority, not an option.
It’s Not Personal
If you’re in a situation where he has been making you an option and not letting you know where you stand, don’t take it personally. Here’s why.
Whatever a guy says and does has to do with his level of integrity, where he is at in his life and what he wants. It’s really about him and not you. You just happen to be the one who has showed up in his life at this time.
If you’ve been disappointed from dating and heartbroken from on-again and off-again relationships, consider taking the approach that lets a man cherish, appreciate and respect you. Learn why you should let a man woo you.
Originally appeared in Love for successful women
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