What to Do When You Don’t Know Where You Stand In Someone’s Life

Each time that thought comes up, continue observing this with curiosity and judgment-free awareness.  The more you observe this thought, it will begin to release itself.  Do this type of observation for all thoughts that keep you from knowing your worth.

 

Situation 5: He tells you and shows you he doesn’t want you

If he is telling and showing you that he doesn’t want you in his life, believe him.  If you don’t believe him, you are imagining him to be better than he is and not seeing him and the nature of your relationship for what they are.

What you should do:

Respect yourself – leave so that you can preserve your self esteem. 

Respect his choice instead of trying to convince him otherwise.  You won’t have to throw yourself or convince the man who is right for you.  If a man is the one for you, you will know how he feels and where you stand.

 

Still Unsure?

If you are still unsure what to do and have been seeing a guy for a while who isn’t forthcoming about where you stand, your intuition and body knows.

Notice how you feel about yourself when you’re with him, in between the times you see him and when you’re without him.

Walk away if:

1. You don’t feel good about yourself when you’re with him or at the thought of him; or

2. You’re with him because you’re afraid you won’t meet anyone else.

Make your decision by placing more weight on his actions and less weight on his words.  If he wants you in his life, he will say and do things that show you are important to him.  You won’t have to guess or wonder.  You will just know.  The man who is right for you won’t keep you in limbo.  He will make you a priority, not an option.

 

It’s Not Personal

If you’re in a situation where he has been making you an option and not letting you know where you stand, don’t take it personally.  Here’s why.

Whatever a guy says and does has to do with his level of integrity, where he is at in his life and what he wants.  It’s really about him and not you.  You just happen to be the one who has showed up in his life at this time.

If you’ve been disappointed from dating and heartbroken from on-again and off-again relationships, consider taking the approach that lets a man cherish, appreciate and respect you. Learn why you should let a man woo you.  


Written by JANET ONG ZIMMERMAN
Originally appeared in Love for successful women

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Janet Ong Zimmermanhttp://loveforsuccessfulwomen.com
Janet Ong Zimmerman, founder of Love for Successful Women, mentors women are professionally successful yet still missing that deep and meaningful love. She helps them simplify love, so they can see things clearly and know what to do. Janet's gentle and introspective manner helps her clients feel at ease, confident and hopeful about love.Her own experience of marrying her soul mate later in life has reinforced her belief any woman, at any age, can have the love they desire. Janet wholeheartedly believes there is a special someone for every woman. Janet inspires women to open their hearts to the real meaning of love through her editorial contributions to Your Tango, eHarmony, and the Huffington Post Live.Your monthly guide to love is filled with insightful articles, inspirational resources and best practices that you can put into immediate use. You canread current and past issues here.
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