What to Say When You Are Depressed And Someone Asks How You Are

 January 18, 2019

What to Say When You Are Depressed And Someone Asks How You Are

#4 – I am depressed and I appreciate your asking but I need to take care of myself right now.

With this answer, you’re sharing with the questioner that you are feeling depressed but you are not inviting them to help you. You are acknowledging that they care, which is important, but you’re being clear with them that you don’t need them to fix you.

For many of us who are struggling with depression, we know when we are ready to start receiving help. At first, the feelings can be so deep that anything that anybody says to us seems authentic and doesn’t help.

If you’re clear with someone that they can’t help you YET, you will not only not be forced to sit through something that might make it worse but you will also let your friend off the hook for trying to fix something that’s not yet fixable.


I know when I’m feeling depressed I try to stay away from people because I don’t want to be confronted with the How are you? question until I am ready.

But life goes on, no matter how we’re feeling, and sometimes we just need to interact with people.

When that is the case, do what you need to do to take care of yourself. If you need help, ask for it. If you don’t want help, keep your cards close to your chest. When you are ready you can show them.

The best way for you to start feeling better is to take care of yourself, to recognize your needs and not worry about the needs of others. If you can do that, you’ll be well on your way down the road to getting better.

If you have read this far you must really be struggling with your depression.

Let me help, NOW, before it gets worse!

Email me at [email protected], or click here, and let’s get started!

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