What To Do When You Are Married But In Love With Another Man

 September 16, 2017

What To Do When You Are Married But In Love With Another Man

It doesn’t mean having sex at the end of the day. Romance can be like a surprise dinner date or a long drive where the couple will get to spend quality time on their own. The lack of spark will instigate the lady to find love somewhere else.

The communication problem is a major issue in failed marriages. Suppose the lady is going through a professional crisis and wants to talk to her husband about it but he’s too engrossed in his own life to give her time. She even fails to communicate to her husband that she needs him most at that point in time.

There might be another incident where the lady dislikes the neighborhood of their apartment and it’s evident from her reactions but the husband does not communicate with her well enough to understand the reasons behind her reactions.

This lack of communication eventually leads to ignorance. Nobody likes to get ignored, especially when you are ignored by your significant other. Lack of communication makes the lady feel suffocated in the marriage and when she finds someone is willing to give her time, listen to her and understand her feelings, she is likely to fall in love with that man.

So, the lady falls in love with another man. Now what she’s supposed to do? This leads to our question: Is breaking away the only option?

The answer is a straight and simple: No.

It might seem to the lady that this is love but it’s not love. It’s a temporary closeness she’s experiencing due to the lack of communication with her husband and lack of romance in her life. It’s not ethical to cheat.

One cannot even assure that this other man will marry her and they will have their own happily ever after. Let’s think of the man’s character too.

What kind of a man will date a woman who has a husband? Definitely, the man too will have evil intentions and cannot be trusted either. Hence, the lady cannot break away.

But what can be done then? The lady cannot stay in this unhappy marriage either. This brings us to the final question: Can it be mended?

Yes, the marriage can be mended.

The woman must think about the positive things about her husband and rule out the negative ones. Instead, the woman must start looking into the negative sides of the man she is dating. She should focus on her marriage and try to bridge the communication gap. She should sit with her husband and talk about the issues she is having problems with.

It’s easy to jump from one relationship to another but it takes a lot to sustain a married relationship. Cheating and breaking away is not acceptable. One needs to have patience and deal with things.

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