- Don’t measure it—validate it.
- Don’t minimize it—see it.
- Own it by calling it what it is—a trauma.
You can’t heal what you don’t identify.
Process your feelings.
- Identify what trauma is saying—talk back.
Trauma silently talks to us.
Learning this was eye-opening to me. I hadn’t been aware that trauma had built a negative mindset that whispered to me with every trigger.
All I knew was the basket case I turned into and the shame that followed over my seemingly unwarranted reaction (my measurement).
I had to discover this invisible mindset and find the words that would silence the voice of trauma. It took a lot of processes. The process I went through the first time is in chapter eight of my first book.
Talking back to the trauma when I got triggered changed my life. Words are powerful. It took time to bring results but every time I talked back I gained ground.
- Dealing with trauma can cause triggers—don’t do it alone.
- Get help—there’s no shame in asking for help.
We need someone to enter our pain with us. To validate the pain and suffering along with us. This can be a trusted friend, a support group, a professional counsellor, or a life coach. I’ve received help from all of those and offer that same help to others.
Do you have the tendency to diminish your value? I did.
Shame says we’re not worthy of the love and compassion needed to heal.
Shame lies – you ARE worthy of love!
Dealing with your trauma will silence shame.
- Let me come alongside and help you – schedule a free consultation.
- Not ready to talk yet – get this book.
- Have you addressed trauma in your life already? Share what helped you.