Dating for a strong, powerful woman is usually an ongoing process of elimination, and that’s OK. Perhaps you’d feel quite happy with an everyday achiever, after all, his life is fairly uncomplicated. Now just uplevel that notion to add “every day achiever” who is ALSO genuinely “happy with where he’s at.” Because those men are out there. Or, maybe you realize you really do want someone who sees something greater in himself and is willing to do the scary work it takes to rise into that. Those men are out there, too!
Either way, you’re honing in on what works for you. And that’s a gift that only comes from putting yourself out there in as real a way as possible.
Ultimately, ladies: We get to choose how we react to other people’s judgment.
So, NEVER dim your light for someone else.
Don’t cave to the temptation (e.g. social pressure) to slow yourself down or make yourself smaller to give the potential greatness in another person a chance to catch up with you’re own.
Dimming your light and power only enables their weakness and creates co-dependency, which is the opposite of what you truly desire.
As author Marianne Williamson says, “Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”
So, stay true to your greatness and wish guys like this all the best on their journey as they grow into their own greatness.
Though I haven’t found my “forever” romantic partner yet, I have made a couple of fantastic friends; my strength excites and encourages them. They are men who want to stretch and grow because of me and my influence, who feel that their own unique strengths can compliment mine. And I feel like I’m benefiting from their influence in equal measure.
Yes, the pool of prospective partners shrinks a bit the more you stand in your joy, confidence, and power. Just use the hiccups to your advantage as you move closer to the “real thing.”
Written by Triffany Hammond
Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
Printed with permission from the author
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