However, with some training, you can teach yourself to stay calm, positive and affected by negative words, feelings or situations.
This attitude is most useful in daily life, at work, in the pursuit of ambitions and career, and of course, on the self improvement and spiritual paths.
Situations that Require Positive Emotional Detachment
How do you feel, when somebody says something nasty or makes an unpleasant comment? You would probably become angry, unhappy, or feel hurt. This happens because you let others people’s thoughts, words and actions affect your state of mind, your actions and your reactions.
On the other hand, if you are able to stay detached, you will not be upset and disturbed. You will stay calm and would not waste hours thinking about their words.
- Do you spend hours thinking about hurts, bad memories, and failure, instead of finding ways to avoid these feelings?
- Do you allow yourself to be pulled into emotional thinking, worries, and fears, instead of detaching yourself from them?
- How much time and energy do you waste every day, brooding on useless thoughts and feelings, due to lack of detachment? Much of the anger, frustration, unhappiness, and disappointments are due to a lack of detachment.
- While working, reading or walking, and during other activities, we often keep thinking about people, and situations that have hurt us. This is not a useful activity and is a waste of time and energy.
- Do you practice meditation? During meditation, an endless number of thoughts keep coming into the mind, attracting attention, and awakening associated thoughts and emotions. This makes you forget the meditation and follow your thoughts. However, if you can display detachment toward your thoughts, it would be easier to ignore them.
You can prevent yourself from getting involved in these situations and being affected by them, when you develop the ability to detach yourself from them. This is positive emotional detachment. It is a way to protect your mental and emotional well-being.
- It is a most useful skill when driving, since it helps you stay calm when you find yourself in a traffic jam, and when someone cuts your lane.
- It is useful, when someone criticizes you or when someone treats you rudely. It helps you keep your composure and control your reactions in these situations.
- It also helps you avoid resentment and holding grudges, because you rise above these feelings.
These are just a few of the many situations, where positive emotional detachment can be of great use. Remember, I am referring its positive phase, where it is useful and can save you time and energy.
Additional Definitions and Meanings of Detachment
Emotional detachment means letting go, to let go of negative feelings, thoughts, and memories. It means letting go of anger and resentment and forgetting your frustrations, disappointments, and failures.
In simple words, it means freedom from attachment to anything that harms and hurts you. It means adopting a calm, happy and balanced state of mind. You are not repressing anything or hurting anyone when expressing this skill in the right, positive way.
When you possess this skill, you are in a better position to help or advice people, because you become a calm and relaxed person, use your common sense and reason, and do not respond and react with anger.
You can develop this useful skill with simple training. In my book about this topic I offer guidance and advice for developing this useful skill, which anyone can follow and practice.
Are you ready to practice positive emotional detachment?
Written by: Remez Sasson Originally appeared on: Successconsciousness.com Republished with permission.