A common feature among sapiosexuals is that they can identify intelligence in other people almost instantly. For instance, a sapiosexual who is reading a book about French literature is greatly turned on when someone approaches him or her and comments on the book. A sapiosexual is attracted to a person who is knowledgeable about the things that interest the sapiosexual.
To know if you are a sapiosexual, ask yourself the questions listed below:
- Do you get sexually attracted to other people only when you detect that they have wit, intelligence, and taste?
- Does a person’s looks hold very little weight with respect to whether or not you find them sexually attractive?
- Have you ever lost sexual interest in someone upon realizing that he or she was not intelligent enough for you?
- Does a person who is very smart seem to be a lot better to you than someone who is not?
- Would you decline a person making advances if you found out that he or she didn’t read much or worse, didn’t read at all?
- Do you get sexually aroused by a person’s display of great knowledge and intelligence?
- Would you reject someone who isn’t able to keep up with you in intellectual discussions?
- Are you disgusted by the idea of having sex with someone who didn’t go to college or who has no interest in higher education?
- Do you think that you can’t enjoy sex with someone if you don’t or can’t intellectually connect with them?
If you answer “yes” to all or most of the questions, then you could call yourself a sapiosexual.
Other Sapiosexual Indicators
1. You find other people more attractive as you get to know them.
A sapiosexual does not care much if a person is not physically attractive. A sapiosexual finds the other person increasingly attractive the more they talk and get to know each other. The reason is that being a sapiosexual means that the main attraction of a person is his or her intelligence. The more a sapiosexual discovers the mind of another person, the more fascinating it becomes.
2. Instead of casual sex, you’d rather have a great conversation.
Sapiosexuals are turned on and fulfilled by mental activities more than physical ones. However, it does not necessarily mean that they would not have casual sex. It’s just that they prefer more challenging and thought-provoking conversations.
3. You are definitely turned on by what a person knows rather than what he or she has.
Wealth and social status are of less importance to you. What intrigues you is the person’s knowledge and intellect, and what energizes them to achieve personal greatness.
4. You just cannot put up with bad grammar.
In choosing partners, a sapiosexual tends to choose one whose level of intelligence is similar to or higher than theirs. A person with bad grammar is a big turnoff for sapiosexuals.
5. You are turned on by any form of knowledge.
The person need not have a genius-level IQ or be at the top of his or her class. What matters to you are the interest and profound love the person has for whatever form of knowledge.
Other sexual Orientations and sexual Behavior
There are also other sexual orientations and types of sexual behavior, which include those classified as sexual deviations and disorders by the DSM-5. A sexual orientation describes the pattern of an individual’s sexual attraction based on gender. It is different from affectional or romantic orientation, which indicates the sex or gender a person is most likely to have a romantic relationship or fall in love with.
The three basic types of sexual orientation are monosexual, asexual, and polysexual.
- Monosexual – The monosexual type of sexual orientation is exclusively attracted to one gender. Examples of monosexuals are people who are straight, lesbian, or gay.
- Asexual – Individuals whose orientation is asexual are those who do not experience any sexual desires or attraction to other people at all.
- Polysexual – It is a person whose sexual orientation is attracted to multiple genders. Other terms for polysexual are bisexual, pansexual, and queer.
Through the years, a number of neologisms describing non-heterosexual and sexual orientations have been coined, as the landscape of gender identity and sexual orientations have also changed. Below are some of the terms used to denote various sexual orientations and behaviors that have been identified. Note that some of them are considered deviations, abnormal behaviors, or disorders in the DSM-5. Some are even illegal in most places.
This is also known as being “straight”, as this is the conventional sexual orientation, in which a person is attracted only to the opposite sex.
Homosexuality is the sexual attraction or desire between individuals of the same sex.
Pedophilia is described as a sexual attraction toward children at the pre-puberty stage, that is, 13 years of age or below. A pedophile must be at least 16 years old, and at least five years older than the child. Some pedophiles have gender preferences while some are aroused by both boys and girls.
This is characterized by recurrent and strong fantasies, behaviors, or sexual urges involving the exposure of one’s genitals to an unwary stranger.
People with voyeurism derive sexual pleasure from watching others engaged in intimate, private actions such as undressing and sexual activities. A voyeur who does this secretively is commonly called a peeping Tom.
Also known as zoophilia, bestiality is engaging in sexual activities with animals. Bestiality is explicitly illegal in most US states and many countries around the world.
This sexual orientation is characterized by having sexual desires and relationships with both males and females.
People with coprophilia have sexual desires associated with defecation and feces.
This is characterized by recurrent and powerful sexual fantasies, behaviors, or sexual urges that involve touching or rubbing one’s genitals against another person without his or her consent.
People who are demisexuals are not sexually attracted to others until they feel a deep bond with or romantic feelings for the other person. These people need to be friends first before they become sexually involved.
People who are pansexuals are attracted to individuals of any gender identity or sexual orientation.
An autosexual is a person who prefers self-gratification or autoeroticism rather than having sex with other people.
This is an attraction towards femininity, and is seen in both men and women.
This refers to a person who feels the same amount of sexual attraction towards anyone regardless of their sex or gender identity.
sexual attraction is geared toward various genders or sexes.
This type of sexual orientation involves fantasies or sexual urges involving the use of particular objects such as female undergarments.
This is characterized by sexual arousal or pleasure derived from enemas.
This is an abnormal obsession with death and the dead, particularly having an erotic attraction or desire for corpses.
People with partialism are focused on and aroused by only a particular part of a body.
This type of sexual orientation involves being beaten, humiliated, bound, or made to suffer, as these acts arouse the person’s sexual fantasies and urges.
This involves recurrent, intense, and sexually arousing fantasies or sexual urges, in which the physical or psychological suffering of a person is sexually exciting to the other person.
This is the repetitive sexual obsession of making obscene telephone calls to other people.
This type of sexual orientation is where the gender identity of a person is unclear. The person takes on the sexual identity of either a male or female to carry out his or her sexual behavior and fantasies.
A transsexual is a person who identifies him- or herself as having the identity of the opposite sex. Sometimes, the person undergoes surgery or hormone injections to achieve the change of sex that he or she wants.
This is a fetish for urine or urinating, or a dependency on either for sexual pleasure.
People who practice polyamory have non-exclusive intimate relationships with the people they are attracted to.
A pomosexual does not identify with a particular label or orientation, does not find any of them useful, and thus, disregards them.
A skoliosexual is a person who is sexually attracted to people with gender-variant behavior.
A menosexual is sexually aroused by those who are menstruating.
This refers to a person who is romantically attracted to a person, but does not want or need his or her feelings reciprocated.
An androgynoromantic person feels a romantic attraction toward androgynous people (individuals whose expression is both masculine and feminine).