While all narcissists react poorly to criticism, the introvert may have the thinnest skin of all, because they believe they’re uniquely sensitive.
Instead of the aggressive and exploitative nature of extroverted narcissists, coverts have feelings of neglect or belittlement, hypersensitivity, anxiety, and delusions of persecution.
The Covert Narcissist in Relationships
The danger is in not seeing through the facade of a covert narcissist because they’re more passive. But covert narcissists can be just as destructive to relationships as the extroverted types. The emotional abuse might be more silent and subtle, but can wear you down and demoralize you. Your needs and pleas for attention will be discounted or ignored.
You can get sucked into trying to console and help this manipulative martyr to no avail. There’s no way you can fill their emptiness or change their victim mentality.
You’re left feeling resentful and angry. Meanwhile, your self-esteem is gradually undermined. The narcissist lacks empathy for you, won’t see you as a separate individual, and will do what’s necessary to maintain power and control. Their pain and needs will always take precedence, so you’re left feeling alone and neglected.
Extroverted narcissists sometimes also act covertly, pout, and play the victim in order to manipulate. Don’t get caught up in definitions. If your needs and feelings are being discounted, if you feel manipulated or abused, see a therapist and learn how to confront this behavior. Get Dealing with a Narcissist.
© Darlene Lancer 2018
Written by Darlene Lancer JD, MFT
Originally appeared on WhatIsCodependency.com