Bad boys may be drama bombs waiting to go off, misery factories who are just waiting to shatter a woman’s self-esteem but they’re not boring.
The edge of doing something they know isn’t good for them can be thrilling to many women – it’s a bit of excitement that comes with doing something wrong or naughty that they just don’t get from a guy who’s “safe”.
But being interesting and exciting doesn’t also mean “horrible human being”. Nice guys can be more interesting as well, without being a gaping asshole.
Using a little uncertainty – building that sense of anticipation – for example, makes someone much more interesting than a guy who is Johnny-on-the-spot. That will we/won’t-we spark and the tension between desire and release can be absolutely delicious.
So can going out of your way to lead an interesting lifestyle. Part of the reason why the “bad boy” image seems to have coalesced around a James Dean manque of rebellion is because of what it represents: a shock to the system, someone who stands outside the societal norms. They’re something new and different… and that novelty is incredibly attractive.
Don’t get me wrong: this doesn’t mean you need to invest in leathers and a pan-head Harley to be attractive, though it couldn’t hurt.
What it does mean though is that you need to be interesting. Dating someone new should be an adventure. That adventure may be a life with fewer attachments and travel. It may mean taking more risks with your career. What it shouldn’t be is dull.
Being nice doesn’t mean you finish last. Women don’t like bad boys, they like what bad boys do. Take a page from their book and women will wonder why they never realized just how fun a nice guy can be.
It seems like even in the near future, this discourse of bad boys vs nice guys will continue for a long time. If you are a nice guy reading this article, then you know now what you need to do to win the heart of the woman of your dreams. Be the real you, and just go for it!
If you want to know more about what bad boys know that nice guys don’t, then check this video out below: