7. Start practicing gratitude
Gratitude turns what we have into enough.
Gratitude is an excellent practice that completely shifts your mindset from scarcity to an abundance mindset. Set aside a time each day and think about 3 things in your life that are great and for which you are grateful. Write it down and place it somewhere you can easily notice all the time. Keep adding a new item to the list every day for the next 1 month. It can be something big or something really small, as long as you don’t repeat it. I know it will feel a bit awkward in the beginning, but by the end of the month you will realize that your life is actually a lot better than you believe. Moreover, it will retrain your mind to focus on the positive instead of the negative aspects in your life.
8. Be more compassionate & helpful
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle. – Plato
How will helping other people matter when you are barely able to help yourself? You will find out when the time comes. As you are facing tough times in life, you are in a better position to realize what others are going through in similar situations. When you become compassionate and start helping others in whatever ways you can, you will gain new perspective in life. Although their problems may seem insignificant to you, it may be the biggest challenge they have faced yet.
When you start helping others instead of wallowing in self-pity, you will start to see the strength inside of you. Volunteer and help whatever cause you feel strongly about. You can help rescue animals, teach poor kids, help build community homes or whatever you feel like. Not only will this bring joy to your heart, but you will find the inner strength necessary to cope with your own problems. You might even make some new like-minded friends who can inspire to move ahead in life.
9. Forgive and let it go
The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. – Steve Maraboli
Let go of all negative emotions and thoughts like anger, resentment, frustration that will keep you trapped in your dark past. Forgive yourself, forgive those who might have hurt you and forgive the universe for messing your life. By allowing yourself to forgive, you will take more accountability for your own life and free yourself to move away from a damaged past to a better future. This is how you can take your life back.
10. Start working out
Exercise is therapy.
A strong mind resides in a strong body. I can personally vouch for it. It’s not about whether you are going to the gym or training at home, how hard you are training or how great you will look after a few months. The only thing that matters is that how great you will feel after each finished workout session. It will not only feel stronger, more confident and focused but it will also rewire your brain and keep you motivated. You can either work out in the morning or you may exercise in the evening after work to reclaim your life. By taking care of your body, you will eat healthier and focus on your physical & mental well-being. When you feel great about yourself, you will be able to give your best to face whatever life has to offer.
11. Learn from others
Experience is a master teacher, even when it’s not our own. – Gina Greenlee
Sometimes it can be a great idea to connect with individuals who have faced and conquered similar challenges in life. You can choose to join a support group or participate in online groups to find out how different people are coping with their problems and share ideas and solutions. You can also read about various people who have overcome great odds in life and succeeded. Read their life stories, watch their interviews, learn from their experiences and inspire yourself through their experiences. If they can do it, so can you.
12. Practice mindfulness
The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it. – Thich Nhat Hanh
The past is already gone and you can’t do anything to change it. The future is yet to happen and it will be uncertain irrespective of how much you plan to control it. No amount of worrying will ever change the past or determine the future with certainty. The only thing that you truly have is the present moment. By being fully present in the current moment, you can make a difference to your life. Focus your time and effort on this present moment to bring about a real change in your life. Practicing mindfulness will help you with this and allow you to celebrate life as it is. But this is easier said than done. With the help of mindfulness meditation and regular practice you can retrain your mind.