3. Unplug from social media
It’s good to be happy and tell us how cool your life is and how awesome you are on social media. That’s great because it inspires other people to be happy, too. But a lot of times, people are trying to be happy in the wrong ways – with money or with different things that are not true happiness. – Jaden Smith
There is nothing wrong with using social media yet there is everything wrong with it. There is an attention war going on all social media platforms. Friends and family, celebrities, businesses, products and services…all of them are constantly influencing your thoughts. You are being programmed and conditioned to think and act in a certain way. Everyone wants your attention and is making you seek attention from everyone else. This can be overwhelming and make you compare your life with others unnecessarily. However, you are comparing your real life with only what they are showing you. And this is where the problem lies.
Identify how much time you spend on social media, what type of people and pages you follow, how you feel afterwards etc. This will help you identify how it impacts you and your psyche. Then find a balance and unfollow anything that does not serve you. I personally have removed both Facebook and Facebook Messenger from my device. I rarely use any platform now other than some limited time of Instagram. Not only have I managed to find more free time on my hands, but I am now in better control of my thoughts and feelings. Instead of social media making you feel insecure, make it inspire you.
4. Use positive affirmations
Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely. – Roy T. Bennett
Instead of hating yourself and engaging in negative self-talk, shift your focus to your strengths and achievements. Identify the areas you need to improve and prioritize yourself over everything else. This is not going to be easy. Loving yourself unconditionally takes practice and patience. So make sure you use positive affirmations every single day.
Tell yourself how unique and amazing your are. And make sure you are genuine and truly believe what you tell yourself. This will help you boost your confidence and you will perceive yourself differently. Seek your own validation and believe in your abilities. If necessary, write down positive affirmations and phrases like “I can do it”, “I am awesome”, “I will be successful”, “I will achieve my goals”. Stand in front of a mirror and repeat them to yourself. But most of all, believe every word.
5. Note down all habits you need to change
It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.” – Roy T. Bennett
Can you reclaim your life if you are still stuck with your old bad habits? Think about it. You can’t start something new when you are still practicing habits that hold you back. These can be small minor habits that you do every day, even without much notice. Note down of all such habits and make a list of everything that you feel you need to change, things that can pull you back or derail you from your efforts. Once you know what you need to stop, you can develop an action plan to get rid of them and focus on rebuilding your new life. This might seem insignificant now, but you will know how important this is once you get down to it.
6. Get out and travel
“The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.” – Agustine of Hippo
Sometimes the best way to change your mindset is through a change of scenery. The world outside your home, office and your daily route is an exciting world. It is full of new unexplored possibilities that is calling out to you. Go on an adventure, a vacation or a holiday trip with your friends, family or all by yourself. Exploring new places, meeting new people, experiencing different cultures will help you gain a different perspective in life. By getting you outside of your comfort zone, traveling makes you more aware and connected with yourself. So start saving for a travel fund and go where you always wanted to.
7. Start practicing gratitude
Gratitude turns what we have into enough.
Gratitude is an excellent practice that completely shifts your mindset from scarcity to an abundance mindset. Set aside a time each day and think about 3 things in your life that are great and for which you are grateful. Write it down and place it somewhere you can easily notice all the time. Keep adding a new item to the list every day for the next 1 month. It can be something big or something really small, as long as you don’t repeat it. I know it will feel a bit awkward in the beginning, but by the end of the month you will realize that your life is actually a lot better than you believe. Moreover, it will retrain your mind to focus on the positive instead of the negative aspects in your life.
8. Be more compassionate & helpful
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle. – Plato
How will helping other people matter when you are barely able to help yourself? You will find out when the time comes. As you are facing tough times in life, you are in a better position to realize what others are going through in similar situations. When you become compassionate and start helping others in whatever ways you can, you will gain new perspective in life. Although their problems may seem insignificant to you, it may be the biggest challenge they have faced yet.
When you start helping others instead of wallowing in self-pity, you will start to see the strength inside of you. Volunteer and help whatever cause you feel strongly about. You can help rescue animals, teach poor kids, help build community homes or whatever you feel like. Not only will this bring joy to your heart, but you will find the inner strength necessary to cope with your own problems. You might even make some new like-minded friends who can inspire to move ahead in life.