We don’t think about our dreams anymore because we don’t want to let anyone down. We want to live our lives based on their standards of us. This is where you need to take notice and start your transformation. Stop giving a shit.
Have you ever noticed that most people get irritated by passionate individuals who are driven by their goals? They are true to who they are and have accepted themselves as they are. This is the very first step to reclaim your life. Don’t be afraid. Understand that you are enough and pursue what actually matters to you.
2. Focus on who you spend your time with.
“Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them.” – W. Clement Stone
Have you ever paid attention to the kind of people you allow in your life? Take a good look at who you are surrounded with. Who you spend most of your time with. Friends, family, and even coworkers can have a significant impact on our lives and our thoughts and actions.
When you are surrounded by the wrong type of crowd, your mentality will get corrupted by their negativity. They will unashamedly minimize your achievement, distract you from your goals and make you doubt yourself by tearing you down. This is why it is important to have friends who are passionate, driven, motivated with whatever they feel is important. You will feed off their positivity and confidence.
3. Unplug from social media.
“It’s good to be happy and tell us how cool your life is and how awesome you are on social media. That’s great because it inspires other people to be happy, too. But a lot of times, people are trying to be happy in the wrong ways – with money or with different things that are not true happiness.” – Jaden Smith
There is nothing wrong with using social media yet there is everything wrong with it. There is an attention war going on all social media platforms. Friends and family, celebrities, businesses, products, and services…all of them are constantly influencing your thoughts.
You are being programmed and conditioned to think and act in a certain way. Everyone wants your attention and is making you seek attention from everyone else. This can be overwhelming and make you compare your life with others unnecessarily. However, you are comparing your real life with only what they are showing you. And this is where the problem lies.
Identify how much time you spend on social media, what type of people and pages you follow, how you feel afterward etc. This will help you identify how it impacts you and your psyche. Then find a balance and unfollow anything that does not serve you. I personally have removed both Facebook and Facebook Messenger from my device.
I rarely use any platform now other than some limited time of Instagram. Not only have I managed to find more free time on my hands, but I am now in better control of my thoughts and feelings. Instead of social media making you feel insecure, make it inspire you.
4. Use positive affirmations.
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” – Roy T. Bennett
Instead of hating yourself and engaging in negative self-talk, shift your focus to your strengths and achievements. Identify the areas you need to improve and prioritize yourself over everything else. This is not going to be easy. Loving yourself unconditionally takes practice and patience. So make sure you use positive affirmations every single day.
Tell yourself how unique and amazing your are. And make sure you are genuine and truly believe what you tell yourself. This will help you boost your confidence and you will perceive yourself differently. Seek your own validation and believe in your abilities. If necessary, write down positive affirmations and phrases like “I can do it”, “I am awesome”, “I will be successful”, “I will achieve my goals”. Stand in front of a mirror and repeat them to yourself. But most of all, believe every word.
5. Note down all habits you need to change.
“It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.” – Roy T. Bennett
Can you reclaim your life if you are still stuck with your old bad habits? Think about it. You can’t start something new when you are still practicing habits that hold you back. These can be small minor habits that you do every day, even without much notice.