11 Ways To Be A Good (Or Even Better), Girlfriend

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It’s also important to note that everyone has different “alone time” needs, so talk about what would work best for you both. Your ex may have needed three or four nights alone each week, but your boyfriend may only need one.

Express your needs, too, and you’ll be on your way to finding the perfect, healthy balance.

If he asks for space from the entire relationship, do your best to be thoughtful, respectful and empathetic so that he knows he has a safe, loving partner to come back to when he sorts himself out.

7. Respect his values and beliefs while maintaining your own.

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11 Ways To Be A Good (Or Even Better), Girlfriend

We all differ from one another in some way whether it be politics or religion and it’s important to respect each other and understand that you can agree to disagree respectfully.

Don’t judge the other just because you both differ in some aspects of life. If you learn to embrace the differences you can learn a lot.

Dating is not an easy thing and as technology and other trends keep growing, the more complex it becomes. What I do know is that the principles of what constitutes a good girlfriend and a good wife versus a bad girlfriend and a bad wife remain relatively stable over time.

This list will help you be a better partner. None of us is the perfect partner but as long as we strive to be a better person than yesterday, we are doing all we can do.

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8. Turn your phone off every once in a while.

Yes, work needs you. So does your mom, your BFF and the dog groomer. But if you want to be a better girlfriend, you need to know when to switch it all off and have a little IRL face time with your man. You also need to talk to him about his phone use, should it feel excessive —without coming off as controlling.

He should reciprocate, of course, but someone has to take the first step and turn their phone off or set it aside and that may as well be you.

It’s not practical to assume you’ll never stare at your social media when you’re chilling together or that you’ll decline all calls, but setting aside at least a few hours a day just for couple time can be a game-changer.

It’s also key to know when you should set your phone down and ignore it; like when he’s talking to you, you’re eating a meal, or when you’re watching a movie or show together.

In those moments, you shouldn’t have to be asked to listen or engage. Just proactively decide to put him first.

Related: 6 Signs Of Emotional Unavailability

9. Be a safe place for your boyfriend to open up.

In our society, the woman is expected to be the caretaker and emotional one, whereas the man is supposed to suppress his feelings and emotions or else he’s a wimp. Sadly, that doesn’t work for a lot of people — even in relationships that are very traditional.

For me personally, I find it very attractive when a man can show his emotions and open himself up to show some vulnerability, but he can’t do that unless he knows he’s safe, loved, and adored by you.

Don’t try to solve his problems for him or tell him what he’s done wrong when he opens up to you. Use phrases that show empathy, like, “I’m so sorry that happened” or “I can imagine how hard that must have been.

Give him a hug and tell him you love him. Even with guys, who aren’t supposed to be touchy-feely (according to socciety), a big hug goes a long way!

Finally, keep his secrets and emotional experiences private. You may share everything with your best friends or family, but that doesn’t mean he’s comfortable with that. Being a safe place for a man’s emotional expression sometimes means being a vault, and keeping this emotions safe and private.

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