In a Psychology Today article, Wendy L. Patrick, JD, Ph.D. writes “Apparently adrenaline and excitement stimulate attraction, as well as enhance interaction.” Engaging in exciting and somewhat risky activities produces chemicals in our bodies that result in infatuation and attraction. And this is not just related to romantic partners. Exciting activities can even bring strangers closer. Wendy adds “The arousal-attraction dynamic is not limited to romantic partners. Feeling excitement can enhance attraction to strangers as well.”
15. Solve problems together
Every relationship goes through ups and downs. We face several challenges and obstacles in life that can often leave us wondering what to do next. However, you should use this as an opportunity to develop an emotional connection by working at the problem as a team. When you find a solution together and overcome the obstacle, you will feel closer than before.
16. Be positive
People are attracted to positivity because it is rare to find. When you share your positive energy with them and encourage them to develop a positive attitude, they will become emotionally attracted to you. By motivating them to be their best, you will motivate yourself to be the best you can be.
17. Accept your mistakes
Yes, it’s difficult to admit when you’re wrong. But when you own up to your mistakes and apologize, you will show them that you care about them. It shows that your emotions for them are bigger than your ego. However, you should learn to apologize from your heart, explains integral psychotherapist, counselor and author Robert Augustus Masters, Ph.D.
He writes “Don’t settle for shallow or emotionally flat expressions. If you’re not sorry, don’t say you are – but if you’ve done something that’s hurt another and you feel bad about this, and the words “I’m sorry” get stuck in your throat, say that you’re having a hard time saying it. Such a confession will usually soften you enough to allow your remorse a fitting voice.”
18. Use humor
Being funny may not come naturally to some of us, but it can surely help you develop an emotional connection with someone. When you make someone laugh, they become more emotionally and mentally attracted to you.
According to a 2015 study by Laura E. Kurtz and Sara B. Algoe, shared laughter can lead to relationship well being. The study revealed that “voiced laughter elicits positive emotions in the listener.” It also found that “shared laughter independently predicted closeness and social support. Specifically, individuals belonging to couples with higher shared laughter durations reported feeling closer to and more supported by their partners.”
However, it is also important to have depth in your conversations that goes beyond small talk and funny jokes. The key is to have deep conversations while using your humor.
19. Love yourself
Before you can create a strong emotional connection with someone else, you need to first build a connection with your own self. You can’t give love to someone unless you learn to give love to yourself. The more you love and respect yourself, the more your partner will appreciate you. Treat yourself and value yourself enough if you want someone else to start loving you.
Also read: When You Love Yourself, You Love Others
20. Respect them
Love cannot exist without respect. In fact, trust and respect are sometimes more important than love. So make sure you give them the respect they deserve. When you respect someone and hold them in high regard, it shows that you respect yourself and feel secure with yourself. Give them the space they need, accept their views and perspectives, be tolerant and compromise when necessary. Mutual respect is one of the main pillars of any relationship based on emotional connection.
21. Let it happen naturally
Developing emotional connection and creating a meaningful relationship that lasts a lifetime takes a lot of effort and patience. It’s not going to happen overnight. Some days will be smooth while other days can be rough beyond your imagination. The strength of your bond depends on how well you cope with the ups and downs of the relationship.