How to Deal With Loneliness (13 Steps For Isolated Souls)

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Is that the way you treat yourself? If not, why? Why can’t you be your own best friend? What is it about yourself that you’re so insecure or hateful about? Don’t you deserve love and respect just like everyone else? Exactly.

But many people falsely believe that a best friend can only be someone else. This is an absurd idea, because how can you learn to love and appreciate people truly if first you don’t love and appreciate yourself?

Treat yourself kindly. Compliment yourself. Be considerate towards yourself, and show respect. This is the foundation of self-love.

5. Become your own counselor

This is extremely important if you want to learn how to survive loneliness.

One of the most irritating things in the world to me is listening to people who moan and complain about their problems but don’t stop to question why they’re happening, or what they can do to solve them. For god’s sake, you have a brain, so use it! It’s natural for us to complain – it can be therapeutic – but constant whinging is a mental disorder that needs to be diagnosed.

Becoming your own counselor is invaluable because it allows you to explore your problems, rather than wallowing in them.

Think: why are you lonely? When did it start?

How are you feeling? Why are you feeling that way?

What can you do to solve your loneliness? By the way, kudos for checking out this article, because in a sense, you’re being your own counselor now.

Analyzing your problems really does help put them into new perspectives. When I experienced loneliness I read self-help books, wrote in journals, and mapped out my issues on pieces of paper to give them a visual perspective. The more I analyzed them and looked at them with different perspectives, the easier I found it to address my inner turmoil.

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6. Be near people

By nature, we’re social beings – it’s hardwired into us to crave the physical, emotional, and psychological company of fellow human beings, hence the existence of loneliness. So go out and be near people.

If going out with your so-called “friends” alienates and depresses you like it did with me, go and sit anonymously in a public space. This way you can entertain yourself by people watching, and be in close proximity to other people. Although this doesn’t necessarily cater to your emotional and psychological needs, it’s a start and was something I found useful in my loneliness.

7. Volunteer

Volunteer or join an interest group. Take small steps to get out of your comfort zone. Check your local newspaper, sign up to a Facebook group in your area, or go on meetup.com.

There are many beautiful, kindred souls to be found in volunteering circles and interest groups. In fact, if you’re looking for a friend, this is the perfect way to meet new people. Loneliness tricks you into thinking that everyone is alike and that you won’t ever be able to find a kindred soul. But by doing the math, it’s easy to see that we’ll most likely find someone to truly connect with eventually.

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8. Take care of yourself, physically

Neglecting yourself when you feel down is tempting. Of what consequence are you when the whole world is dark, dreary, and crumbling into a void of emptiness? None. But taking care of your body is the beginning of recovery. So be playful. Lighten up. Your body deserves comfort, grooming, and pleasure.

Have a bubble bath. Lie on a soft pillow. Buy yourself a nice treat. Get a massage. Do your hair. Drink some tea or fine wine. The more I respected my body, the more I found respect for myself in honoring my comfort and taking care of my needs.

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