5 Ways To Set Boundaries With A Man

WITHOUT Scaring Him Off

 May 08, 2019

5 Ways To Set Boundaries With A Man WITHOUT Scaring Him Off

I mean who wouldn’t?

Romantic dinners, thrilling events, going out to shows, the first date is often a little bit too much. So just go to coffee instead of dinner.

It’s not realistic for the man to keep up that level of expectation.

And what it does is it avoids the fact that you need to bond on a real-world level first.

You have to know if this guy is for real.

Crazy all-nighters where he ends up sleeping over or flying off to Mexico for the weekend with you on a whim, is just not sustainable by either of you.

Novelty also amplifies the attraction hormones in your system to a level where you’re going to be tricking yourselves about the level of desire and commitment you actually do have for each other.

You have to see, know and experience how you interact in the real world to know if a relationship with him is going to work.

 

3. Know your expectations and requirements for personal time and space.

Personal time and space can be tricky. I’m really surprised more couples don’t actually talk about space more often.

After all, if you don’t know what your expectations are here, you could find yourself in a lot of awkward arguments.

How much space you need and how much “me time” do you need?

You’ve got to know what each one of you thinks is the ideal amount of time to spend together as well as the time you need apart.

Back when you were in high school, yeah, sure you can ditch school and make out on a couch all day long. OK, maybe I might have done that one once or twice too. But as grownups, we know what our limits are.

You know when you need that ‘me time’ to get the grocery shopping done and hang out with your kids or head to the gym and you’ve got a real life to manage?

Your guy might not have the same obligations or needs that you do or vice versa.

Be upfront about your needs so that you both know what time you have together and what time you need apart.

Misunderstandings are usually caused by one person not wanting to rock the boat so they stay silent.

They don’t want to chance messing up this new romance.

Here’s a really important fact for you.

People don’t usually walk away from a relationship because the other person has healthy boundaries.

They walk away because the communication of the boundaries wasn’t done well and now there’s conflict, misunderstandings, and confusion. And most of the time, it’s because those relationship boundaries were set too late.

 

4. Communicate.

Communication. Did that word just trigger a whole bunch of stuff for you?

Communication is the trickiest part of dating with men and for guys, that are dating women.

Hands down, it’s the most complicated part.

And it’s not because guys are particularly complicated in how they talk about things, we just communicate it in a much different way than women do which feels very confusing because it seems to be coming from a completely different way of thinking.

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