3. We remind you that your birthday is not worth celebrating
We buy some token gesture and point out that your 43rd birthday is not really something to celebrate is it?
It is hardly a milestone. We then use this to remark on your advancing years and point out your various flaws.
4. We spoil your birthday by turning the spotlight back onto ourselves
We organize a lovely birthday for you but spoil it by turning the spotlight back onto ourselves.
We turn up late, we flirt with a guest or we manufacture some drama so that everyone is looking at us and not you. We complain at waiters when there is a family meal out, when there is not actual need to do so.
We want to make a scene and wrench the spotlight back over to us.
5. We deliberately pick a fight with you over absolutely nothing.
We remember your birthday and spend it doing what you want and we are pleasant to you until early evening when we deliberately pick a fight with you over absolutely nothing.
The narcissist fuel we gain from this behaviour is all the sweeter as we have built you up, your guarded behaviour has melted away as we appear to have done everything that pleases you. We are waiting.
We are waiting for you to feel good and happy and then we will cast you down so your emotional reaction is all the more heightened leaving you with birthday blues.
This behaviour is not just reserved for your birthday although we enjoy ruining your birthday the most. We do this with the birthdays of our children, friends and family.
We hate it being about someone else and we hate seeing him or her being happy. In our world, nobody else is allowed a birthday and we believe that every day is our birthday and everyone should recognise that and act accordingly.
We know that you would rather your birthday be erased from the calendar. It is always a horrible day in one form or another and you would rather it not take place. We put a big red ring around it in the calendar in our mind and scribble next to the day the words, “ Special Fuel Day.”