People don’t follow through for a variety of reasons. Very few of them are because we don’t love someone. We do it to prevent our person from feeling hurt or let down or we are human and forget. But we don’t do it because we don’t love our person enough.
Unfortunately, people tend to personalize that someone doesn’t do something for them. ‘If you loved me you would have done this’ is the phrase people hear when they haven’t followed through
So, if you aren’t good at following through, regardless of the reason, you definitely won’t make your woman feel loved every day. Instead, you will make them feel unimportant and unloved.
Make sure you do what you say you are going to do. Allow your woman to feel confident that she can rely on you to always be there for her. And make her feel safe.
4. Talk and listen.
Have you ever thought to yourself ‘I don’t need to tell her how I feel about her – she knows’.
Do you take out the garbage faithfully, assuming that by doing so your girlfriend will know you love her? If the answer to either question is YES then you are wrong!
Telling your woman how you feel about her is a key component in making her feel loved every day. She might have a sense of how you feel but to actually hear the words come out of your mouth let’s her know that you have her back. That you care about her enough to tell her and that she knows that she can count on you to be there for her.
Also, another way for you to make a woman feel loved every day is for her to know that you are listening to her. That when she talks you are paying attention and understanding what she is saying and feeling.
While you might be inclined to think that you need to ‘fix’ her to make her feel loved, in reality, all she wants you to do is to listen and let her know that you are there for her.
So, next time your girl opens up to you, sit down and pay attention. Hold her hand, empathize with her feelings and confirm for her that you hear her, that you are there, and that you always will be.
5. Be a man.
I know. I know. In this day and age men and women are equal. And my 26-year-old daughter will kill me for saying this but the truth of the matter is that men can make women feel loved by just acting like a man.
Men are genetically programmed to be protectors. The survival of the species depended on men protecting their women and children from predators. That instinct is not gone in this 21stcentury world.
I am not saying that you need to brandish your club and knock down anyone who messes with your girl but make sure that she knows that you are there for her, to reach the things that she can’t reach, to carry that load that is just too much for her, to hold the door open when her hands are full and to get rid of that dead mouse carcass the cat dragged in.
Tap into your inner caveman, without letting him take you over completely, and to help your woman feel loved.
6. Tell the truth. Always.
The number one most important thing to do to make your girlfriend feel loved is, to be honest.
I said above that it is important that you always do what you say you are going to do but it is more than that. For a woman to feel loved, she needs to feel trust. And if you can’t be honest with her she can never trust you.