Consciously choosing to set aside time to feel and express your feelings will allow them to pass through you and to create room for the feelings of grief to change.
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2. Practice compassion for yourself
When you’re trying to get over someone you once loved, you can get stuck when you judge yourself and blame yourself for the breakup.
The truth is you were doing the best you could with the resources you had — all of us are. If you had the ability to approach the situation differently you would have.
Have compassion for that younger version of you who was unable to prevent it, fix it, or make it better. Whether you could or should have done things differently is irrelevant at this point.
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Accessing compassion releases judgment and there is no reason to judge what you did or did not do. There is no reverse in life, so you cannot go back to make a new choice.
Compassion allows you to be kind to yourself.
Find a place you love to sit, whether out in nature or in your home and place your right hand on your heart center and cover it with your left. Close your eyes and breathe into your heart. Picture the younger version of you who “screwed things up”.
Let her know you love her. Say out loud, “I forgive myself for judging myself for …” and fill in the sentence with the mistakes that you made. Practice this as often as you like.
3. Find gratitude for all that you have
Gratitude is probably the last thing you want to focus on when you are having a pity party, but shifting your mindset will give you the fuel to move on to better things.
An attitude of gratitude allows you to receive more of what you want. When your heart is broken, it can be difficult to feel gratitude about anything in your life.
Start small. Look for things that are going well in your life and celebrate them.
If you’re healthy, start with that. If you have a pet, you can be grateful for their unconditional love. If you have friends who are willing to listen to you complain about your ex, put them at the top of your list.
How you think about things is one of the most important tools you have for shifting your energy and your emotion.
Start a Gratitude Journal and each night before bed write down 5 things you are grateful for. Then, read through the list in the morning before you get out of bed to start your day.
4. Discover the golden nugget
This step is one you will take when you are done grieving. If you are still feeling brokenhearted, go back to step one.
We like to think of life as a giant game board and when you discover the golden nugget after a breakup, you move forward toward your beloved.
Here’s how you do it: Write a letter of gratitude to your ex (we know that sounds a little kooky but stick with us here).
You see, everyone who shows up in your life gives you an opportunity to learn and grow.
Your ex showed up to teach you something — maybe to help you become a better communicator — to learn how to speak up for yourself or to how to become better at selecting the right kind of man for you.
Discovering the “why him?” will ensure you don’t lather, rinse, and repeat with the same kind of man who is not right for you again.