So I paused and thought to myself: what’s the worst that can happen if I lose focus? I will fail…miserably. So what’s the big deal with that? Haven’t I failed before in my life? Haven’t I faced any humiliation, embarrassment and abject failure in my life before? Of course, I have. So why am I afraid?
There is zero fear! You realize that at the point of maximum danger, is the point of minimum fear. It’s bliss! The lesson for me was…when you should be terrified, it is the most blissful experience of your life. God placed the best things in life on the other side of terror.”
– Will Smith
So I set my new year’s resolution for myself back in 2018: Fail and fail hard and then fail some more. But for failure to happen, I had to take more action. I had to take more chances. I had to take more risks. You can never fail in your comfort zone. Can you? And that realization alone liberated me from all those beliefs that were holding me back in my life. Although I did fail miserably in 2019, I learned a lot more about myself and life this year than ever before. I have achieved a lot more in life this year than the past few years combined.
It’s not about being pessimistic. It’s not that I was deliberately looking forward to fail in my life. It’s just that I wasn’t afraid of failure. I was more intent on learning and growing than succeeding. I was more focused on the process than the outcome. It was an experiment that paid off beyond what I could imagine. And I am going to stick to this belief in 2020 as well.
Look at it this way:
- Success demands growth
- Growth demands learning
- Learning demands failure
- Failure demands action
- Action demands effort
- Effort demands focus
- Focus demands realization
- Realization demands self-awareness
So as long as we are afraid of failure, we will keep sitting on that couch doing ‘Netflix and Chill’ and staying inside that rotting comfort zone way longer than we should have in the first place. Becoming self-aware makes you the designer of your own life. And it isn’t that hard as long as you know what you want and you’re willing to do what’s necessary.
Then do it again.
Preparation is half the battle
“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
To thrive in all aspects of your life in 2020, you need to start looking at things differently and prepare action plans that will lead to exceptional outcomes. Here are a few things you need to do as you prepare for success.
1. Understand where you stand in life
Where do you stand regarding the things that actually matter to you? Take a good hard look at your life and analyze your life right at this moment. How much satisfaction do you have in the following aspects of your life:
Physical, mental & emotional health
Goals, dreams & passions
Fun & happiness
So? What’s the score? How well are you doing in life in your opinion? Taking some time out and evaluating your own life can help you understand where you need to put maximum effort. You can consider various other facets about your life and include things that matter most to you. As you get a clearer idea of your reality as of today, you will be better able to create an effective action plan. Whatever you do, just make sure you are honest with yourself.
2. Reflect on 2019
“It wouldn’t be New Year’s if I didn’t have any regrets.” – William Thomas
Recall everything and anything you can about how 2019 was for you. A great way to do this is to keep a journal. Note down all that you can remember, all the opportunities and challenges, achievements and setbacks…anything you can remember. Focus on the minute details and write down everything without getting too involved about the date or time. Visualizing can also help you to remember valuable information. It is also a great idea to write down how each experience made you feel as it can help conjure up further details. Write down everything. You can also refer to your old emails, texts, social media posts, notebooks, calendar and any articles you might have written.