Top 10 Warning Signs You’re Being Gaslighted in Your Relationship

Warning Signs You’re Being Gaslighted in Your Relationship

6) You Can’t Remember Anything Anymore—

The narcissist is infamous for selective memory; that is, he will deny that he said something that upset you if you confront him on it, or he will promise to do something and later tell you that it never happened. He might also use creative language to downplay his behavior and act as though your reaction is totally out of line.

7) You Lie to Keep the Peace—

You aren’t a liar by nature and you don’t lie to other people in your life.

But due to the extreme stress caused by upsetting or angering the narcissist, you might find yourself at least bending the truth a little in order to avoid the verbal/physical abuse that is sure to follow any discussion or situation that is against the narcissist’s “rules.”

8) You Stop Trying to Be Heard—

As humans, we are programmed to share our experiences and thoughts with the people in our lives. But when you’re dealing with a narcissist and there are signs you’re being gaslighted, you eventually might just give up.

You stop talking about yourself around the narcissist, and depending on the depth of your relationship with him or her; you might even stop talking about yourself altogether. Then one day, when someone asks you a question about yourself, you’re stumped. You might even forget HOW to talk about you.

Related: 15 Signs You Are A Victim Of Gaslighting

9) You Start Thinking Maybe You Really Are the Crazy One—

The intensity of a narcissist’s manipulation tactics can really get to a person. And when you are looking for a solution (AKA a way to just END the disagreement or argument), you might just convince yourself that the narcissist is right—that there are things you could be doing better.

And maybe you start to think that maybe his behavior WAS a logical reaction to your mistakes. Maybe you are the one who owes HIM an apology. And when you apologize, he eventually (probably) accepts your apology, only to later throw your “bad behavior” back in your face when it serves him.

10) You Are Depressed

As a narcissist wears down his victim, she may become depressed and anxious. She will constantly question herself and feel generally hopeless. If you’re in this situation, you might feel exhausted from the roller-coaster ride your narcissist has been taking you on—and you might even think you’re just a little oversensitive (thanks to the NPD manipulation tactics you’re being subjected to.)

You get confused and start to feel disoriented. And thanks to all those references to your paranoia and memory issues, you’re likely to seek help for depression rather than the actual problem—the gaslighting narcissist in your life.

Related: Singed and Spinning From Gaslighting: An Emotional Abuse Weapon Of Extreme Narcissists

Even the so-called normal relationships in our lives can suffer from misunderstandings and miscommunications, but when someone starts using the manipulation tactics involved in gaslighting, chances are they might also be a narcissist—and if you’re going to maintain a sense of self, you’ve got to start making some changes in your life.

Do you recognize any of the signs you’re being gaslighted as part of your reality?

Have you ever been the victim of gaslighting? How would you tell a friend to handle a toxic relationship that involves gaslighting? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section, below! (Feel free to comment anonymously if you prefer).

Written By Angie Atkinson
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Gaslighting is a horrible weapon used by toxic people to manipulate their victims. These toxic people do not care how their gaslighting is affecting their victims’ psyche and mental health. However, as long as you keep these warning signs in mind, you will be able to repel their manipulative and toxic games.

If you want to know more about the signs that you are being gaslighted, then check this video out below:

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