If You Want To Be Happy, You Have To Learn To Be Alone

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If you want to be happy, learn to be alone without being lonely. Learn that being alone does not mean being unhappy. The world is full of plenty of interesting and enjoyable things to do and people who can enrich your life.

— Michael Josephson

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  1. Yeah, being alone is better than being used, abused, exploited and being taken for granted by people who pretend they care and people who lie when they say they love you.
    Being alone is better than loving one that only used you, while you served some purpose for their selfish gain.
    Being alone is better than falling for the same tricks and scheems, only dressed differently. And stupid fool like me, you trust again, you believe in love again, you think “perhaps this time” … and it turns out bad again. And again. And again. And again ..
    Being alone is fine, … for decades, perhaps, untill that one day .. when loneliness finds you, or you figure out, finaly, what has crawled in. It is like its brother, Trouble, you don’t have to invite them, or go looking for them. They already know where you are. Trouble will knock on your door too, when it is least welcome. It visits everybody more than once.
    I was alone for over a decade, nearly two. The thing with loneliness … It might crawl into a closet for a while, but it doesn’t leave. You just learn to live with it. Perhaps make friends with it. Perhaps give it another name and dress it up a little differently from time to time. None of that changes it into something else, though.
    At least it doesn’t talk behind your back, laugh at you to your face, humiliate you in front of other people, stab you in the heart or hit you in the face. At least it doesn’t pretend to be something it is not. At least it doesn’t lie, cheat or deceive you. Even if you lock it in a box, deeply hidden in a tiny crevace somewhere deep down in the darkest corner of your being. It is what it is: Loneliness. So make peace with it when it finds you. It will find a hidy-hole for itself, but it won’t leave. It often makes for a better friend and better company than the ones you cannot trust -I am told.
    Perhaps then you will find happiness .. when that inner war has ended. Maybe …
    We are still busy with peace talks … Loneliness and I.

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