This way, when you think of a place or a song that you and your ex both love, it would make you like him or her less and less.
3. Give yourself a break, recognizing that it’s difficult to get over a broken heart.
Some people find it extremely hard to forget someone because, instead of weakening the associations that make them remember their ex, they just constantly reinforce them.
They just add extra suffering to their situation by:
– Playing particular songs over and over that remind them of their ex
– Visiting the same places and spots that they used to visit with their ex
– Basically thinking about everything and anything related to their ex
These are the reasons why even time cannot help those people heal their broken hearts. You must stop doing these things to help your broken heart recover easily. Whenever a thought of your ex pops into your mind while at one of these places or listening to one of these songs, instead of day-dreaming about your ex for the next hour …you should immediately push the thought of your ex out of your mind.
This way, over time, the association will die.
4. Don’t add salt to your own wounds.
What you need to focus on right now is to stop adding salt to the wound. This doesn’t mean to suppress your feelings towards him or her. Restraining your emotions and feelings does not help in getting over your ex.
Sometimes, it’s good to feel and experience the emotions you get from being dumped. BUT you must not indulge in those kinds of feelings again and again. This is one of the most common and biggest mistakes people tend to do when their boyfriend/girlfriend breaks up with them.
When you indulge in those feelings, you’re just basically strengthening them into your subconscious. You’re embedding them in your heart deeper. And keep in mind that the deeper they are embedded, the harder it will be to uproot them later.
5. Feel, take it all in and learn to let it go.
If you stop giving in to your feelings and emotions right now, they will have nowhere to go but fade away. When emotions are not fed, they will die.
What needs to be done right now is to stop all the daydreams you have of your ex. This will be the toughest part of forgetting an ex but once you put it into action and stick to it, it will result in success.
One of the reasons why people fail to stop giving in to their emotions is because they frequently revisit all the happy memories and moments they’ve had with their ex.
Naturally, if you keep on indulging your emotions, they will just continue to grow. Like a plant that needs water, you need to cut the water supply to prevent it from growing. And the best time to begin doing this …is now.
John Alex Clark – Relationship & Life Coach
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