4. Don’t Let Others Influence You.
How many times has your friend said “If he loved you, he would do these things?” How many times has your mother said “She really should keep the keep kitchen cleaner.” How many times have you gotten resentful that your partner isn’t reaching some expectations set by someone outside of the relationship?
It is important that you recognize that your relationship is just that, your relationship.
My mother-in-law used to remind me that my ex was really good at cleaning the house when he was a teenager. I appreciated that but, in our marriage, him helping with the house cleaning wasn’t something that we had agreed on. It was important that I remembered that when discussing house cleaning with her.
So, make sure that your expectations are based on what you and your partner want, not what others want.
5. Remember That No Relationship Is Perfect.
Last night I was watching “The Bachelor” (yes, I have watched every episode of the bachelor since 2002) and I listened to him talk about the perfect relationship that he wanted to come from his journey. The bachelorettes sang the same tune – they were there to find their best friend, someone who would always be there in their time of need.
While those sentiments are wonderful, they just are unrealistic. No one can be all things to one person all of the time.
When we enter into relationships expecting perfection, we will only be disappointed. Knowing that your relationship will not be the be-all and end-all, that you will need to find some things outside the relationship and that you won’t blend into one person, will help set you up to not be disappointed and keep your relationship on a forward track to happiness.
Learning How To Stop Unmet Expectations From Ruining Your Relationship Is Not Difficult To Do.
If you are feeling dissatisfied in your relationship take a good hard look at your expectations. Do you have unmet expectations that aren’t being met and is that why you are losing that loving feeling?
If yes, take a good hard look at your expectations and define if they are reasonable. Have your partner do the same. Afterward, discuss them with your partner so that you guys can agree on what you both want and need. Don’t listen to others and know that every relationship isn’t what you read about in fairy tales.
If you can do these things, your chances of living happily ever after will be greatly improved.
You can do it! Start now…
Written By: Mitzi Bockmann Originally Appeared On: Let Your Dreams Begin