#8 Accepting the coexistence of multiple truths
Different variations of truths exist in the same reality. No, I am not talking about multiple realities here. But the fact is what you believe to be the truth and what someone else may believe to be true, even though it may contradict your belief of the truth, may both coexist and be true at the same time. This is one of life’s greatest paradoxes. Accepting the existence of conflicting ideas and realizing both can be true will enable you to open yourself to different perspectives.
#9 Respecting your judgments
We all cope with different situations in our own way. Sometimes we are proud of them, sometimes we feel ashamed. But we all do what we feel was the best course of action at the time to survive. Granted our judgment might have been clouded at the time due to the weight of the situation, but we did survive. Didn’t we? So instead of criticizing and punishing yourself for what you did to survive, acknowledge the fact that you went through the challenges of life and endured. Once you learn to honor your judgments, you can figure out how to make things better.
#10 Doubt means don’t
If you are indecisive about something more than you should be, then you need to realize that in itself is a decision. You know that the answer is a hard NO if you need to think too much about making a decision. If something is meant to happen, it will happen naturally. You don’t need to rack your brains to make a simple decision.
#11 Allowing yourself to be angry
We are often the most honest when we are angry. Although we might say the meanest of things, but these are things that have been bottled inside of us for too long, things we believe, things we feel, things we feel passionate about, things we want to change in our lives. By allowing yourself to feel anger, you will enable your deepest thoughts and emotions to come out in a more constructive way. Anger becomes destructive only when we suppress it for a long period of time.
#12 It’s okay to feel ashamed
When feel we have done something we are not supposed to, something that goes out of character, we often feel shame. Feeling ashamed can help us get on the proper track and right our wrongs. As long as you don’t engage in self-punishment too much, shame can help us become a better person and create the life we actually want.
#13 Doubting ourselves
There are days we all feel unsure about ourselves and who we truly are. This feeling can intensify when we face challenges and hardships as we tend to doubt ourselves and our abilities more. Although it may seem like you are lacking confidence and your self-esteem is taking a hit, in reality you are simply becoming a more mature person.
It is only by facing challenges, we undergo necessary self-improvement and grow as an individual.
The person you were till now is changing before your eyes and evolving into someone who is complete and better able to deal with life. This can be a very uncomfortable feeling for all of us, but a necessary one.
#14 Enjoy the process, don’t rush to the finish line
If you have to love someone, love them for who they are. Don’t love them because you want to be in a relationship with them. Then you will experience true unconditional love. There are many things in life that you can do just for the sake of enjoying them, for enjoying the process and not for reaching the destination. Gain mastery over the process. Then you will reach the destination sooner than you think.
#15 Realizing only you are responsible for your happiness
We often tend to rely on our family and our life partners for our happiness. Most of us have this innate belief that they are responsible to make us happy and to take care of us just like we are taking care of them and making them happy. But the truth is we are all responsible for our own happiness. In a relationship, we come together to share our happiness, not to make each other happy. That’s not how a relationship works.