Once you have the strength to face life as it, you will find beauty in your daily experiences. You will see how everything that happens can make your life better. How coping with painful and uncomfortable emotions can actually help you live a better life.
Feel bad to feel better
Now that you know how to face your emotions, here are 16 uncomfortable feelings that you must stop avoiding to build a better life for yourself.
#1 Being alone with yourself
There is a subtle difference between loneliness and solitude. When you find peace and comfort in being away from society and in the company of your own self, solitude can be the most liberating experience. You can truly be yourself without playing any roles for anyone else. Being self-aware, you can rediscover and explore who you really are.
#2 Admitting your mistakes
To err is human, to forgive divine.
We all make mistakes. We all screw up at times. We can’t be right all the time. We can’t be perfect all the time. We are not supposed to. That’s how we learn. Knowing when you are wrong and admitting your mistakes can be hard, but it allows us to see our faults and enables us to better ourselves. You are allowed to make mistakes as long as you don’t make the same ones repeatedly.
#3 Not knowing what you want
It’s okay not to have a long term plan. It’s okay not to know exactly where you will be a few years down the line. The entire concept of planning out your future is simply an illusion. It may offer you some comfort to think about where you will be, but it’s NOT the truth. None of us can fully guarantee that life will happen exactly the way we planned planned it. So it’s better to take one day at a time without getting attached to a destination.
#4 Not doing anything
Sometimes doing nothing can mean doing a lot. In this modern world, we are programmed to multitask, which may be helpful at times. However, when you do absolutely nothing, you will find out how truly gratifying life can be. Put down your smartphone, drink some coffee, sit on your couch, relax and just breathe in some fresh air.
#5 Getting stressed without any reason
We all get anxious and worried for no apparent reason most of the times. These feelings often stem from our inability to understand a particular situation or our inability to cope with the uncertainty of a circumstance. However, allowing yourself to feel anxious and tensed for the time being can actually allow these feelings to pass, despite how uncomfortable you might feel. Your therapist might disagree on this one, but distracting yourself from your true feelings doesn’t work all the time.
#6 Accepting criticism
Getting criticized by others hurts and it can even make us defensive. But it is important to take criticism without defending yourself or avoiding it. Critical feedback can help you focus on your weaknesses that you never thought existed. However, it can be easier said than done. So whenever you are being criticized, be conscious of how you accept and react to the feedback and what you wish to do about it. Understand the criticism with an open mind and think if it can actually add any value to your life.
#7 Judging ourselves like how we judge others
The way we judge people is often a projection of how we judge ourselves. These judgments are a result of our experiences and wounds. However, the way you judge someone reveals what hurts you the most and what you are unable to heal. What you believe others should heal in themselves is often the thing that you need to heal in yourself. This is perhaps one of the hardest aspects of dealing with uncomfortable feelings.