How To Kiss Well: The Ultimate Guide To Being A Better Kisser

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  • Tilt your head, a little. 

To fit together for the best kiss, and to work around our noses, our mouths have to be tilted a bit in opposite directions to interlock. But you don’t want either of you to be kinking up your neck. The tilt should only be slight, less than an inch in either direction.

  • Slightly firm your lips.

You don’t want to make your lips fully solid or pursed. You also don’t want to do the opposite where they’re totally slack with no form. Pushing forward very slightly at the sides of your mouth turn your lips into delectable cushions, which feel fabulous to kiss on. If you do this at yourself in the mirror, it should look like you had some lip filler injections.

And you won’t be doing this the whole time, either. There’s a rhythm to it, of slightly opening and closing. As you open, the lips go loose, and as you close, they’re pushed forward slightly.

  • Use your hand(s). 

For both sensual and practical effects, you should definitely have at least one hand placed somewhere on them. It might be their waist, ribs, the side or back of the neck, etc. This helps press yourselves together while adding a strong undertone of passion, connection, and pleasure.

  • Switch positions. 

If you’re making out or kissing for 10 seconds or more, you’ll want to start considering changes in position. If your head is tilted to the right, and theirs to the left – switch. If your hands are placed lower down, bring one to their cheek. Fluctuate the intensity for a second, either less or more.

How To: Open Mouth With No Tongue

This is the style of kissing people do most frequently. It can range from a quick saucy kiss any time of day, or something more heavily done with passion.

You will basically take all the tips above and stitch them together. With your head slightly tilted, slightly firm your lips to make contact, before slowly beginning the pulsing rhythm.

The ideal mouth shape and movements is intuitive and very tough to describe. But the closest description would be how you would imitate a wolf’s howl, just without the sound. Try softly making the “Aahh-OOooo!” sound yourself, then repeat and mouth it slowly without making any noise. This is the basic mechanics of the open-mouth kiss. Yup, it’s weird. But it works, you’ll see.

At the same time, a very subtle waving rock of the head naturally comes into play. As you reach the “oo” shape with your mouth, and your lips press forward a bit, the chin swings forward ever so slightly in rhythm.

Also, remember to utilize your hands. These are a huge accent to kissing, especially as it gets more sensual. Depending on the length of the kiss, you might just have one hand on their cheek, or neck. Or you might bring the other one onto their waist, the back of their head, or both on either side of their ribs, etc.

As you read the other person’s mouth and body response, you can quickly tell how far open your mouths will go, and whether or not tongue will be introduced, and how much of it.

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How To: Open Mouth With Light Tongue

This is a delicious kiss. But tongue is an art form, and easily misused. When you think about using your tongue, it’s rarely ever with the tip, and slipping in and out like a snake. It’s really the middle-to-front section of the tongue that gets offered forward to connect.

To introduce good tongue, here’s a general idea: Place the tip of your tongue on your bottom teeth against the back of your lip. Now pretend it’s attached there by a hinge. So, when you push your tongue forward, the tip should stay right there, while the middle section raises up and forward, creating a small pad of tongue sitting just behind your lips.

As you subtly open and close your mouth, there’s a bit of a wave that happens. On opening, the tongue relaxes, and as you connect and close, it waves forward, and so on. The exact rhythm and shape will emerge once you connect with your kissing partner. But it happens alongside the same rhythm as the subtle head rock and closing of the lips.

As you go, you might venture out to make a soft and very slight licking motion against their tongue, which uses the tip just a little bit.

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