If they are having fun time by bavardaging with you, stay rest assured, they will smear campaign you at your back too.
Someone who smiles too much with you can sometimes frown too much with you at your back. ― Michael Bassey Johnson
When there are so many available opportunities to welcome positivity and learn interesting things in life, why pay heed to these people?
Treasure people who lift you up and not the ones who pull you down.
2. The Jealous-Judgmental People:
These one can be spotted from a distance. If you are connecting to a person who is always critical about other people, watch out for trouble.
These people have so much self-hate inside themselves that they hopelessly end up projecting their insecurities on to other people. They always have to point out other people’s negative qualities, their faults, their failures and their loopholes. Doing these gives them immense pleasure.
If you are talking to them about the things you are most passionate about they will ruin your mood by making you feel terrible about it. Instead of respecting individuality and learning from others, they choose to be critical about others.
Judgmental people oppress your desire to be passionate, expressive and successful in life through their pessimistic attitude towards everything. You will be better off losing them.
3. The Drama Queen:
For these people, drama is cake and your attention is the cherry on top. Their lives seem to be so full of struggles, hurdles and adversity that they constantly need your attention, approval, sympathy and pity – not your advice. Never try advising them.
Once you have given them the solutions to their problems – attention, they will have to look forward to another way in which they can create a melodrama. Every single problem in the world is theirs but they somehow don’t want to fix any of them. They thrive on crisis because they are experts at extracting importance from others through it.
When you entertain these drama queens, you end up approving their behaviour and become a part of all the drama. Life gets easier when you ignore these people altogether.
4. The Energy Vampire:
Just staying a few hours with an energy vampire in the same room can suck you out of your essential life energy.
Lacking the very crux of empathetic understanding, they will always try to find flaws in you, making you feel worthless and small in front of them. Energy vampires will literally feed on your psychic energy. They feed of the energy from higher energy levels and consciously or unconsciously evoke emotions in others specifically to feed on the triggered emotional energy.
As a result of constantly interacting with an energy vampire, one might feel chronically frustrated, fatigued,upset, anxious, irritable or angry. But you have a choice to stay away from these people.
An energy vampire can never “steal” energy from us unless we consciously or unconsciously permit them to. -Mateo Sol
5. The Victim:
Victims are the most tricky ones to identify as you initially try to empathize with their problems. But as time goes by, you will realise that they are intentionally choosing pain and suffering to churn pity and sympathy out of people.
Victims will always avoid responsibility and accountability for what they do by giving the excuse of their suffering. Suppose you tried to be assertive with them and politely reject their request for something, they might respond like “I have always been rejected in my life. Nobody understood my needs. Anyways, no issues.” And there you are, left drenched in guilt for turning them down, feeling like you are the most wretched being on earth.
The longer you are connected to these people, the more will you be denied of the support, understanding and approval that you deserve. It will always be about them and their sufferings.