Emotions are meant to be felt but we don’t have to be beholden to them. At any point, we can switch the pallet.
Maura wanted to stop running. She wanted to be a fighter and fight better for herself. She deserved to be treated better. She wanted to be seen as competent and strong. But she had to get more practice with the surges of anger in her body.
She practiced daily, feeling the energetic force of anger in her body. She noticed how if she felt the anger in her legs she could use it as strength to hold her ground. She called the heat in her stomach fuel that can be used to influence others. She imagined the energy in her arms and hands as laser might for making things happened. She started to feel more confident that perhaps the next time she gets slammed by life, she would not run.
And then she was tested.
Maura’s supervisor unfairly demeaned her in front of her employees. But this time instead of running, she stayed. She felt her legs strong like oak trees, she noticed her heavy pounding heart pump blood into her arms. She kept her breathing measured, her eye contact firm. Instead of running, she waited a few seconds.
And then she responded.
“I am going to think about your feedback and get back to you about it.”
The response was delivered with control and confidence. She could see the effect it had on her supervisor. “He was shook. And I think he was impressed somehow.”
But most important, Maura felt present. She showed up for herself. She withstood the dizzying wave of her emotion without running from it.
She was triumphant.
She refocused her attention to her prepared calming image of the ocean on a sunny beach. Took another breath and immediately felt more relaxed. The practice of unhooking had worked.
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She noticed her employees sitting around the conference table and watching her, waiting for her response. She smiled.
No matter what happened next, Maura had won. She was in control of herself. She had experienced her emotions and used them to manage a difficult supervisor’s comment, and she reassured her employees that she was in charge.
Her feelings were her superpowers after all.
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Losing control of your emotions and breaking down is something that everyone experiences at some point or the other. You are human, after all. But instead of giving into the painful emotions that you are feeling, try to use them to your advantage. Try not to let them control you, and instead look to turning them into your superpowers. The moment you are able to do this, you will see how better you are at tackling difficult and undesirable situations that might come your way.
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Written By Cecilia Dintino
Originally Appeared In Twisting The Plot