The Truth About Meeting ‘The One’

Truth About Meeting One

When it comes to meeting The One and falling for them, it is not always what they show in the movies; it’s a bit more complicated than that. Meeting The One comes with a few things that a lot of people do not consider, and simply expect everything to just happen magically, and effortlessly.

“How will I know when I meet the right person?” Revealing the truth about meet ‘the one’. 

I often hear this question in my counseling practice. The answer is fairly complex.

There are two different reasons that people have for wanting to get married:

  • To get love, validation, security, and safety.
  • To share love and to grow emotionally and spiritually.

If you feel insecure and alone, you are likely to look for someone who will fill the inner emptiness and give you the love you are seeking. You may want to find someone who will complete you and make you feel adequate and worthy.

The problem is that no one can do this for you – it is something you need to learn to do for yourself.

Since we are always attracted to people who are at our common level of woundedness or our common level of health, a person looking to get love will attract a person also looking to get love.

Each person hopes to get filled from the other, not realizing that each feels empty and really has nothing to give. Therefore, no one is the right person when the intent of getting married is to get love and security rather than to share love and learning.

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Instead of asking the question, “Is this the right person for me?” why not ask, “Am I being the right person?” Am I being a person who comes to a relationship filled with love to share, or am I being a needy person hoping to get love and validation?

The main reason that many relationships don’t work is that each person is disappointed in not getting what they expected to get from the other person.

But when individuals do not know how to love and validate themselves and create an inner sense of safety and security, they certainly can’t do this for another person. Yet this is what each person expects of the other.

The Truth About Meeting ‘The One’
The Truth About Meeting ‘The One’

It is fairly easy to know if this is the right person for you when your intent in being in a relationship is to learn together and share the love.

A person who comes from a full place within finds it easy to discern when someone is empty inside, and will not be attracted to the empty person.

People who are truly open to learning about themselves, to growing emotionally and spiritually, to taking responsibility for their own feelings of safety and security, worth and lovability, will not be attracted to a person who is closed, controlling, and just wants to get love.

Knowing if this is the right person for you does not happen instantly.

It takes months to discover whether or not a person is who they say they are. You cannot really know who a person is until you have conflict and find out what this person does in conflict.

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Meeting The One

Some people can appear very open and loving until a conflict comes up and then they get angry, withdraw, resist or comply, rather than stay open to learning about themselves and the other person.

An important question is, how does this person deal with conflict and how long does it take them to open up if they do close in the face of conflict?

Since none of us enter relationships fully healed, it is very important to know that your partner is willing to explore conflict, rather than just protect against it with controlling behavior.

Related: 15 Thoughts A Man Has When He Finds The Right Woman

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  1. A man needs no inspiration to inspire his queen. When his eyes laid down on her at first sight and became love made her queen right then and there. Made her the first and last on that very day.

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