Here’s a major difference…
In the case of the narcissist, they almost definitely have an impaired sense of empathy. It’s one of the diagnostic criteria. This allows them to allow their ego to manipulate and hurt others with a relatively clear conscience – as long as they’re getting what they want.
In the case of a target, they almost definitely have sincere and strong empathy. This is the opposite end of the spectrum that prevents people from hurting others. But the ego is still there.
If you’ve noticed patterns of triangulation in your life, think about where they’re stemming from. Was there a relationship in your childhood where you felt similar? Are you holding on to unresolved feelings?
Start paying attention to the things that trigger your ego. There’s so much we can learn about ourselves from abusive people. Because they can easily find and target triggers you didn’t even know exist. And once they point them out for you (you’ll know when you’re feeling triggered), dig deep to figure out why that particular thing bothers you so much.
And if it’s a relationship pattern that keeps repeating, think about why you might be attracting it into your life. The only way we can heal is to look within.
Now, I’d love to hear about your experience with triangulation. Did you find this article helpful? Or are you still questioning whether you have an emotionally abusive person in your life?
Written By Common Ego
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