What you should do instead: Actually, you know, deal with the problem. Trust was broken? Talk about what it will take to rebuild it. Someone feels ignored or unappreciated? Talk about ways to restore those feelings of appreciation. Communicate!
There’s nothing wrong with doing nice things for a significant other after a fight to show solidarity and to reaffirm commitment. But one should never use gifts or fancy things tore place dealing with the underlying emotional issues. Gifts and trips are called luxuries for a reason, you only get to appreciate them when everything else is already good. If you use them to cover up your problems, then you will find yourself with a much bigger problem down the line.
Toxic Relationship Habits Written By Mark Manson Originally appeared on MarkManson.net
You do realize that just because the habits are toxic it doesn’t automatically qualify them as abnormal. You see, they’re not mutually exclusive. Maybe if you titled this “Toxic habits that people think aren’t”, you’d be a little more on-point. I can guarantee there’s a fuck ton of toxic behaviors in all areas of life that are quite normal. Drinking everyday for one…taking any action, to excess. Even healthy ones. You get the point. “Normal“ is relative to the number of occurrences amongst the number of subjects. I’m sure, given scientific study, the toxic behavior would be the normal behavior, ACROSS THE BOARD.
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