#1 Tool to Transform Painful Experiences or Emotions

Tool Transform Painful Experiences Emotions

I would however strongly suggest doing the deep inner work first.

Heal what needs to be healed.


If you have never delved into your past, especially your childhood, and how it affects you today, now is a great time to start. There are many excellent therapists and healers that can help you do that.

If you’re dealing with unhealed traumas, I strongly recommend working with a therapist who is qualified to handle trauma.

One technique that helps me shed and transform is Havening. 

Here’s a video where I teach you my modified version of havening.

And if you have already done tons of therapy and personal growth work, go gentle on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up about “still being here after all of these years.

Every stage of life comes with its own need for shedding the old, integrating what is and rejuvenation into the new.

It’s a life-long process and all of the work you have already done will serve to make this stage easier.

I have to confess that shedding what no longer suits you is often not fun. It hurts to heal old wounds, renegotiate relationships or perhaps even end them. It’s hard to say goodbye to the known, even if the known is not what we optimally want?

We grieve for what we lost or for what could have been.

Related: The Healing Power of Music: How Music Therapy Improves Mental Health

Did you give up on a childhood dream to be a professional dancer and now it’s too late?

Did you decide not to have children and now wish that you had made a different choice?

Are you realizing that if only you had done things differently some of your relationships may be different now?

It’s natural at this stage of life to feel grief and loss over roads not taken.

It’s actually really important because it creates deep learning and transformation, allows you to understand yourself and your life at a deeper level, forgive yourself and those who may have hurt you and pave the way for claiming you power.

More on claiming your power next week.

But in the meantime, what about you? Can you relate? What do you need to shed? To grieve? To forgive?

Written by: Natalie Matushenko
Originally appeared on nataliematushenko.com and is republished here with permission.

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