8) Face your fears and learn to express yourself unapologetically
Most of the time in our lives we shrink ourselves because we let the noise and opinions of others drown our inner voice. We need to learn to listen to our inner voice and follow our inner compass. Facing our fears is the biggest catalyst that helps us on our path towards growth and evolution. The more we face our fears and push ourselves out of our comfort zones, the more we grow and evolve. Express yourself to others as clearly as possible.
We need to learn to own and express who we are, unapologetically. We must not dim our lights for the sake of others. The light within us is our driving force. Let this force drive you to the pinnacle. Eventually, you will let go of your painful past.
Lisa Nichols puts it so aptly, “They gonna tell you, “Your lights too bright”, then you just look at them and say “Well, I’m not dimming my light. I’m just gonna hand you some shades.”
9) Allow yourself to feel the entire spectrum of human emotions
Grief, pain, and sadness are as much a part of the human emotional spectrum as joy, happiness, and euphoria.
Whenever you face a painful situation like heartbreak, rejection, loss of a job, academic failure, financial crisis, separation, and death of someone close, allow yourself to feel the pain. Do not hold in the hurt. Let it vent out. That will help you to let go the pain as well.
Trying to suppress your pain only prolongs the healing process by building negative energies in your system. The more you focus on the venting of your pent-up energy through cathartic activities like writings, crying, painting or other physical activities, the easier it becomes for the pain to leave your system.
10) Practice forgiveness
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” – Carl Jung
All of us go through grief and painful moments, but we should not let these define who we are. Everyone makes mistakes. It is our part to forgive others who wronged us, not for them, but for our own good. Holding on grudges never benefits us. So, let go the grudges and the painful past!
We are not our painful past events or someone else’s opinion of us. If we start to develop our self-identity around these events, we will become resentful and bitter. Therefore, the golden rule to heal is, to forgive. When we can learn from our experiences and let go, we can develop a healthy and strong sense of self.
Are you ready to let go of your painful past?