When you start accepting the fact that you control your life and you have the power to make better choices to forgive and move on, you will gradually start witnessing change. Forgiveness thrives on empathy and compassion, while resentment thrives on ego, pride, and self-pity.
4. Give up on being ‘right’.
People who try to be too strict with what is right and what is wrong will never be able to forgive a ‘wrongdoer’. You have to know that your happiness is more important than your need to be a perfectionist. Let go of your past as no matter what means you take, you cannot change it. You can only make wise choices for the present.
However, I would like to add that certain behaviors (rape of any form, sexual abuse, sexual harassment at the workplace, domestic violence, homicide, bullying) are illegal and need to be dealt with by the jurisdiction. Forgiveness is never an option if you are a victim of such behaviors. But this also doesn’t give you the pass to take things in your hand. The legal authority is responsible for dealing with such issues. All you can do is keep your fighting spirit alive to get justice.
Forgiveness necessitates you to be selfless, empathetic and self-loving. But it is one of the most powerful resources available to you.
Reference: 1. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5579396/