5. Talk, listen and share
Now that you are on a date with this pretty lady, what do you say to her? What do you talk about? You are not here to make small talk. You are here to make a connection. So how can you make sure the conversation is interesting and fun?
Figure out what you are going to say in the first 30 seconds. That’s it. This is the most awkward part of the date. But if you know what you will say and what topics you want to talk about in the initial 30 seconds, then you can set the conversation flow and set a momentum. Once you have started the conversation, let her talk and make sure you listen to her. From here onwards, just go with the flow.
Ask simple questions like how she is doing or how her weekend was. But don’t ask stupid or boring questions like what does she do at work. You are on a date. Not an interview. She is here to have fun. Not to talk about work. Just keep the conversation natural and try not to force any topics on her that she isn’t comfortable with.
6. Look at her eyes and lips
Now that you’ve started talking, it’s time we create some sexual tension and chemistry. Once the conversation starts flowing and you are having a good time, you connect with each other. This is when she starts feeling attracted to you.
This is where you need to build some sexual tension to make sure she wants you long after the first date is over. Without sexual chemistry, the attraction will fade away and she will instantly move on to the next guy. But how do build chemistry? Simple, just look into her eyes while making conversation and taking a pause at times.
Hold the stare and then just smile. Then you start talking and laughing again. But that’s not enough. You also need to look at her lips while she talks to you. Don’t be afraid. She won’t think you’re a pervert unless you are being really creepy.
When you look at a woman’s lips, she will start having sensual thoughts and it will build the chemistry you want. However, make sure you don’t keep staring at her eyes or her lips more than you need to. The keyword here is subtlety.
7. Pay attention to her
Put your smartphone down. You wanted to go out on a date with her, well now here you are. You don’t want to ruin this moment by staring into your cell phone or leering at other women.
Checking your phone every two minutes will only annoy her and crush any attraction or chemistry that you have built till now. You need to give her your undivided attention. This is one of the best first date tips you can get.
Just pay attention to her and watch how quickly she starts liking you. Paying attention paves the road to a long-term committed relationship.
8. Make her laugh
You know it works. I don’t need to tell you this. You don’t need to be a stand-up comedian to make your date laugh. Just listen to what she is saying and use humor to make her feel light and relaxed.
You can even use sarcasm to tease her from time to time. Just make sure you don’t start cracking obscene jokes that will make her feel awkward. Use your natural humor to show her that your intelligence and that you know how to have fun. This is an excellent trick to get any girl attracted to you.
9. Create a sense of mystery
Being mysterious is a great idea if you want to go on further dates with this girl. Being too available is an attraction killer. You want her to feel excited about the date and chase you, instead of you chasing her.