3. Know the basics of attraction
It’s not easy to get women to like you, unless you have natural magnetic charm. However, you can learn to be more attractive just like a skill. Learn attractive body languages, be hygienic, have good manners, dress smart, talk honestly and smoothly and be reliable. This will help you make a good first impression and make her like you more.
4. Love yourself first
If you want women to love you, then you have to start by loving yourself first. How can you expect anyone to love you if you don’t love yourself? Get rid of all self doubt and self pity. Focus on building your own life by having a successful career, developing a healthy body and pursuing your passions and interests. Not only you will be happier in life, women will also find you more interesting and would want to know you better.
10 first date tips to make your date great
First dates can be boring and awkward. But it can also be exciting and brimming with chemistry. Yes, dating can be complicated and torturous for men. You have to worry about chemistry, having fun, being attractive, going to a place she will like, dressing up good, walking the walk and talking the talk. But too much pressure can certainly screw things up. Not only do you have to worry about how you are going to behave and what you’re going to say, but you also need to attract her enough to go on a second date.
Whether you have been on a date before or whether you’ve been single for some time, most of us men know very little about how to have a great first date. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been single. It could be months or a few minutes. You could definitely use some help that will help you paddle through the wild waters of dating. If you want to make your first date perfect and make sure she thinks about you afterwards, then here are some helpful first date tips and suggestions to make your date fun, romantic and great.
Here are the top 10 first date tips & hacks to hopefully make this first date, your last first date.
Top 10 First Date Tips & Hacks:
1. Do some research
Thank God for social media. These days it’s become so easy to know someone simply by checking out their online profile. Okay, I am not talking about cyberstalking here. Backup there a little. You don’t want to be a creep. But it can be a good idea to know your date a little bit before going to meet her. Checking out her social media profiles will help you understand her interests, likes and dislikes. What shows and movies she likes. What type of cuisine she prefers. What type of activities she is into. This will help you plan your date in a smarter way without being manipulative.
2. Pick a great location
The place you choose for the date will set the tone for the rest of the evening. Once you have done some research about your her, you will be better able to pick the right place for your first date. In case you don’t know what she likes, it’s best to choose a neutral location where you can sit down, relax, talk and get to know each other. You certainly don’t want to go bungee jumping on your first date. However, that doesn’t mean you simply pick a fancy restaurant to hang out at. Although dinner and a movie is the classic choice, I would suggest you take her to a coffee shop or a local bar. The convenient and casual environment will make sure that she doesn’t feel awkward and freely engage in no pressure conversation.
3. Look hot
I cannot stress this enough. Looking good is mandatory. Period. Dress well and look sexy AF. You don’t need to rent a tux but make sure to wear some of your best clothes, set your hair properly, get a shower, use a deo and wear that confidence. Top it off with a nice genuine smile. The better you look, the more confident you will feel. The better you look, the more interested she will be in getting to know you.
4. Just be yourself
I know you want her to like you and even fall in love with you. But you can’t make someone like you. Of course you can put on a show, be a fake person and do things you believe she might like, but still she is not liking YOU. She is like that fake person you’re being. Relax a bit and breathe. You don’t know what she will like. So it’s best to just be yourself. Be who you are and she just might like that. She may be looking for exactly the type of person you are. When you are yourself, you will be more open and flexible to your surroundings. That means you will react better to whatever she does or says and show her who you are. Take things easy and light and just let her meet and fall in love with YOU.
5. Talk, listen and share
Now that you are on a date with this pretty lady, what do you say to her? What do you talk about? You are not here to make small talk. You are here to make a connection. So how can you make sure the conversation is interesting and fun? Figure out what you are going to say in the first 30 seconds. That’s it. This is the most awkward part of the date. But if you know what you will say and what topics you want to talk about in the initial 30 seconds, then you can set the conversation flow and set a momentum. Once you have started the conversation, let her talk and make sure you listen to her. From here onwards, just go with the flow.
Ask simple questions like how she is doing or how her weekend was. But don’t ask stupid or boring questions like what does she do at work. You are at a date. Not an interview. She is here to have fun. Not to talk about work. Just keep the conversation natural and try not to force any topics on her that she isn’t comfortable with.
6. Look at her eyes and lips
Now that you’ve started talking, it’s time we create some sexual tension and chemistry. Once the conversation starts flowing and your are having a good time, you connect with each other. This is when she starts feeling attracted towards you. This is where you need to build some sexual tension to make sure she wants you long after the first date is over. Without sexual chemistry, the attraction will fade away and she will instantly move on to the next guy. But how do build chemistry? Simple, just look into her eyes while making conversation and taking a pause at times. Hold the stare and then just smile. Then you start talking and laughing again. But that’s not enough. You also need to look at her lips while she talks to you. Don’t be afraid. She won’t think you’re a pervert unless you are being really creepy. When you look at a woman’s lips, she will start having sensual thoughts and it will build the chemistry you want. However, make sure you don’t keep staring at her eyes or her lips more than you need to. The keyword here is subtlety.
7. Pay attention to her
Put your smartphone down. You wanted to go out on a date with her, well now here you are. You don’t want to ruin this moment by staring into your cell phone or leering at other women. Checking your phone every two minutes will only annoy her and crush any attraction or chemistry that you have built till now. You need to give her your undivided attention. This is one of the best first date tips you can get. Just pay attention to her and watch how quickly she starts liking you. Paying attention paves the road to a long-term committed relationship.
8. Make her laugh
You know it works. I don’t need to tell you this. You don’t need to be a stand up comedian to make your date laugh. Just listen to what she is saying and use humor to make her feel light and relaxed. You can even use sarcasm to tease her from time to time. Just make sure you don’t start cracking obscene jokes that will make her feel awkward. Use your natural humor to show her that your intelligence and that you know how to have fun. This is an excellent trick to get any girl attracted to you.