4. Avoid negative self-talk.
Negative self-talk is any internal dialogue or a voice of the critic, from within oneself, almost like a critical person, constantly reminding yourself of your insecurities, your flaws, your drawbacks and those aspects of you which ultimately limit your potential to reach the zenith.
Negative self-talk is to be avoided at all costs.
Most importantly because these negative self-talks follow the path of typical cognitive distortions like catastrophizing, overgeneralization, over personalization etc. Negative self may sound downright mean like “I am not worth anything good in this world.” or may sound reasonable like “I should avoid doing this as it is out of my capacity, just to save myself of humiliation.”
Either way, the negative self-talk will always highlight your flaws and shadow your strength.
Every time, the little voice is about to speak up, shut it up by empowering positive self-talk like “I can do it if I try.” “I am capable of achieving more than this.” Gradually you will find it easier to face your flaws.
5. Say NO to comparisons.
The ugly, the hideous, the perfect, the amazing – you are all of it. These are all you are made of. This is the complete you.
Never compare yourself with another individual with a different set of life experiences, abilities and flaws. If you are comparing yourself with the strength of another person, know that they have their own share of flaws. How about that?
Don’t try to be another person. You might not know, he/she might be struggling with more insecurities and hurdles than you do.
6. Overturn your flaws.
Do you see the same side of the coin when you flip it? If not, the same goes for your flaws. For once, turn your flaws upside down and focus on the positive side of your flaws.
If you consider being shy and socially awkward as flaws, remember you could also be a good listener and a keen observer.
7. Incorporate authenticity.
Would you trade your authenticity with perfection? We all wish to be perfect but is it fine to lose our genuinity by removing all our flaws?
If you wish to remain genuine and be yourself, it’s necessary to accept your flaws. You cannot gain perfectionism and also keep intact your genuinity.
Being genuine means to completely feel comfortable in your own skin and not try to be someone you are not.
8. Use your flaws to inspire others.
Watch this video to see how Renee Airya transformed her greatest flaws into her biggest strength ever.
Why not use your flaws to inspire others to achieve what you could, with what you consider your weaknesses?
Show the world what you could achieve with your share of adversities. Show them that flaws do not hold one back, our mentality does, one’s lack of motivation, perseverance, and determination does.
Like Lady Gaga wrote in one of her blogs, “May we make our flaws famous, and thus redefine the heinous.”
Read this to yourself, again and again,
Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are. – Ariana Grand
1. Schultz, D. P.; Schultz, S. E. (2012). A history of modern psychology (10th ed.). Belmont, CA: Wadsworth, Cengage Learning. pp. 67–77, 88–100. ISBN 978-1-133-31624-4.
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