In some circumstances, though, resolving the conflict might involve more discussion and mutual compromise.
3) Avoid toxic situations.
Avoid or minimize contact with those who don’t respect your needs. For instance, don’t drive in a car with a rageaholic. (Anger’s poisonous energy is intensified in cramped spaces). Or don’t travel with someone who’s an obsessively chronic talker if you want to be quiet and unwind.
Option 2: Practice the Zen Approach
1) Let it be.
Sometimes it’s more aggravation than it’s worth to confront intruders who you’ll never see again: the motor-mouth woman in the airport ticket line, the guy who steals your parking space.
One mellow friend told me, “No one cuts me off in traffic anymore because I let everyone in!” When faced with a “Let it be” scenario, your sense of equanimity is the greatest victory.
2) View the personal space intruder’s insensitivity with compassion.
Remember, personal space intruders, are usually not doing it to you personally. Maybe they’re just having a bad day. Maybe they lack the good sense or manners not to intrude.
Or perhaps they’re so egotistical or inconsiderate they’re only concerned for themselves, a crippling deficit of heart. Or, if they’re being malicious, perhaps it’s a great weakness and darkness within them.
When someone intrudes on your personal space, stick to the high road. Try to remedy the problem using the above tips. It’s tempting to get nasty, which may provide a fleeting release, but it has no real gains. I’m so adamantly against payback because it’s completely devoid of compassion for the offender or any desire to improve how we humans relate.
Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s book “The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People” (Sounds True, 2017)
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