“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.” ~ Unknown
In reality we fall in love with only Three types of people.
The reason for loving these three different types of people is also very different. We need each of these three types of love in our life as they affect us in different ways.
This love has an element of altruism. We want to do it for the sake of the society, for our families. We tend to believe this love will last forever and even if it doesn’t feel the most right thing we want to do it. We are ready to ignore our personal truths, but all we want is to make it work somehow because our heart believes that this is what love is.
Why we want to think of others, when we are in love? That’s because this type of love makes us care more about how people look at us than how we feel about ourselves.
It perfectly fits into the imagination that we have about love.
We still have so many illusions that need to be broken. When think we have learned a great deal and are making better choices, but in truth we still opt from the need to learn the bitter truths of life. Despite the pain we want to work it as long as possible. Even if one relationship gets over, we keep getting back to the same types of relationships and make the same choices. Every time we think things would be different this time, but the end is worse than before.
Making wrong choices leads us to wrong people. We end up getting into unbalanced relationships. Relationships which are unhealthy. And also with narcissists as we still haven’t developed the power of judgment that helps us distinguish between the right and wrong people. We get subjected to mental, physical and emotional abuse, but still we want to stick to such relationships. There are such extreme highs and lows that one feels as if they are riding on an emotional roller coaster. That prevents us from quitting because we are always ready to face the lows in the hope of the highs.
When in this type of love, trying to make it last is what seems more important than if it should exist at all.
We wish with all our heart this love were right. We want it to be that way, badly.