I think about the job interviews, the first dates, and so many other things like even when I wanted to buy something and it was sold out, only to see I bought something way more suited for me a week later.
It’s only in the future when we can look back and really connect the dots as to way things went the way they did.
I know when I was going through my last breakup, I held on for a long time to future-based visions of us, and that was my process. But eventually, through self-compassion and time, I allowed myself to see that there’s a better plan unfolding for me.
Truly, and I can sit here and type this to you because I have been where you are. It feels like you won’t meet someone as great, or you’re never going to stop hurting…but you will if you can just see even just a tiny little bit that this might be part of the plan.
If you’re like “Nancy I want to believe that but today I just feel so hurt I can’t,” then take your time.
There’s no set time to heal from a breakup. It’s your process. Cry it out. Throw a pity-party and stay in bed if you need to (for the 4th day in a row). Take care of yourself the best way you know how.
And then, when you’re feeling a glimpse of hope, consider that you’re exactly where you need to be, and there’s a beautiful plan unfolding for you.
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Written By Nancy Ruth Deen Originally Appeared In Hello Breakup