The worst is when I’m in a crowd of people I don’t know. It’s a combination of being overwhelmed and my insecurities taking over that causes me severe anxiety. Suddenly me, a pretty extroverted individual, becomes this shy introverted person and I’m afraid to just be myself. It’s not until I feel comfortable in a place when I can start to collect myself and stop the insecure feeling.
But at the end of the day, regardless of the situation, it’s always important to try and take control of your mind and remind yourself of who you really are, no matter what your anxious thoughts are trying to tell you that day.
5. The Unknown.
Oh, the deep, dark unknown. This can be anything from plans with friends in a new location you’ve never been to before, to starting a new job, to meeting new people. Although most people are freaked out by the unknown, most anxious people tend to completely despise the unknown because it’s something we have no control over and can’t play out in our heads.
I’m starting a new job, and everyone keeps asking me why I don’t sound super happy about it. The thing is, deep down I am really happy. But the major thing holding me back from being nothing but happy is the unknown. I don’t know what my co-workers will be like, how my commute will be each day, what the office environment will be like, or how quickly I’ll pick up the work I’ll be doing.
At my old job, I knew everything. I knew the people, the work, the basic day-to-day. Letting all that go and diving headfirst into the unknown is one of the scariest things, especially for an anxious person who has a million worries and fears.
6. Changes Big, Or Small.
Tying into the unknown is pure change. Change is scary for most, but for anxious people, it’s a whole new level of scary. it’s downright terrifying. It can almost inhibit us from doing things we want to do deep down. Starting a new job, being in school and starting a new class schedule, commute changes, moving to a new house or apartment, someone you love passing away, break-ups, having an argument where you and your friend aren’t speaking, or just simple lifestyle changes. These are all things that play a huge role in anxiety.
This is for a few reasons. One being simple, it’s just different and new, and as I said before, it’s the unknown. It’s not something we are used to and that scares the hell out of us. We seem to get stuck in a routine, and once that routine is created and we have fully adapted to it, it becomes our comfort zone.
Ah, the good ol’ comfort zone. This zone is dangerous. This zone can make us believe we should continue doing something even if it isn’t making us happy, simply because it’s just easier than creating a huge change in our life. But the thing we often forget as humans, anxious or not, is that change is usually a good thing. Even if we don’t see the good right away.
Change means yes, we have to adjust to a new routine, live a different lifestyle, or go down a different path, but usually, it’s for a really good reason. And unfortunately, if it’s not, then change will allow you to explore new opportunities, try something totally different, and maybe you’ll find something you never would’ve before had you not made that change.
Life, in general, will always cause anxieties, but it’s important to recognize your own triggers and learn healthy ways to cope with them. Sometimes when we are drowning in our own thoughts, it can be difficult to pull ourselves out, and at times, it can feel impossible.
But it is possible. Read a book, go for a run, learn a new hobby, bake some cookies, listen to some music, be in nature, go on an adventure. Just find ways to cope. And most importantly, find ways to stay strong.
Nikki is from Boston and has been writing since she was a young girl. She often uses her personal experiences as inspiration for her writing, in the hopes of helping others out there who may have been through similar struggles. She and her husband run a small business called Moonlight & Mindfulness where they offer hand-poured crystal candles, homemade tea blends, and crystal items like jewelry and gift sets. Nikki is also a meditation practitioner and leads workshops on things like the moon phases and shadow work.
Written By Nikki Rutledge Originally Appeared Nikki Zarrella