3. Find closure
“Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.” – Unknown
Finding closure after a breakup with your girlfriend or boyfriend is crucial for your inner healing and moving on. However, if you are looking towards your ex to get closure, then you’re making a big mistake. Understand this. They are as hurt, angry, and emotionally wrecked as you are. And they are looking for that same closure from you. But sadly, none of you will hand it out to each other.
The fact is, your ex cannot give you closure, as nothing they do or say will make you feel better about this breakup. You have to create your own closure and that will start with focusing on yourself and your feelings.
Start writing a journal or a letter that you don’t intend to send and pour your heart into it. Write about exactly what you are feeling, how you think your ex might have hurt you, what wrongs they have done, what you think your fault was if you have any hopes of ever getting back, how angry you feel for what they have done to you…everything!
Express yourself by writing it all down on that paper. Share all your thoughts, feelings, worries, and regrets. Let it all out. But don’t send that letter. One of the best things you can do is burn or bury that letter as a symbol of letting go of all those emotions and finding your closure.
Once you’re done, let go of all the emotions that are holding you back, let go of the relationship and let go of your ex. Forgive them for what they have done. Forgive yourself for what you might have or should have done. Forgiveness is never about the other person. It is always about allowing yourself to move ahead from the past.
4. Move your body
A breakup can leave you with a lot of stress, anxiety, and nervous energy that can quickly bring you down. So the best thing you can do to release all that negative energy and feel a lot better about yourself is by joining a new workout class. You can take a membership in your local gym, join a boxing class or a dancing class or even start doing Zumba.
No matter what you do, exercising will give your body, mind, and spirit the boost you need right now. Studies have found that physical exercise is among the top self-help methods to treat depression. Working out helps in the production of serotonin and endorphins that help you develop a positive mindset.
Moreover, a recent online survey by the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) revealed that exercising helps in reducing stress. It was found that over 14% of individuals do regular physical exercise to reduce stress. So get started and get moving.
5. Love Yourself
“Don’t ignore the love you DO have in your life by focusing on the love you DON’T.” – Mandy Hale
Give yourself the love you seek from your ex. If you believe you are worthy of being loved by your ex, then you should start by loving yourself. And that means not pursuing your ex or begging them to get back together again. Respect yourself enough to walk away and let it go. Once you’ve gone through a breakup and you feel your worth is tied to your ex-partner, it can be really hard to love yourself, especially if you have a low sense of self-esteem.
Hence, you need to shower yourself with love right now as strong and healthy self-esteem can empower you to get through this difficult phase of life. Accept yourself with all your flaws and weaknesses and tell yourself that it’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to miss your ex.