Start writing a journal or a letter that you don’t intend to send and pour your heart on it. Write about exactly what you are feeling, how you think your ex might have hurt you, what wrongs they have done, what you think your fault was, if you have any hopes of ever getting back, how angry you feel for what they have done to you…everything! Express yourself by writing it all down on that paper. Share all your thoughts, feelings, worries and regrets. Let it all out. But don’t send that letter. One of the best things you can do is burn or bury that letter as a symbol of letting go of all those emotions and finding your closure.
Once you’re done, let go of all the emotions that are holding you back, let go of the relationship and let go of your ex. Forgive them for they have done. Forgive yourself what you might have or should have done. Forgiveness is never about the other person. It is always about allowing yourself to move ahead from the past.
4. Move your body
A breakup can leave you with a lot of stress, anxiety and nervous energy that can quickly bring you down. So the best thing you can do to release all that negative energy and feel a lot better about yourself is join a new workout class. You can take a membership in your local gym, join a boxing class or a dancing class or even start doing zumba. No matter what you do, exercising will give your body, mind and spirit the boost you need right now. Studies have found that physical exercise is among the top self-help methods to treat depression. Working out helps in production of serotonin and endorphins that help you develop a positive mindset.
Moreover, a recent online survey by the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) revealed that exercising helps in reducing stress. It was found that over 14% of individuals do regular physical exercise to reduce stress. So get started and get moving.
“Don’t ignore the love you DO have in your life by focusing on the love you DON’T.” – Mandy Hale
Give yourself the love you seek from your ex. If you believe you are worthy of being loved by your ex, then you should start by loving yourself. And that means not pursuing your ex or begging them to get back together again. Respect yourself enough to walk away and let it go. Once you’ve gone through a breakup and you feel your worth is tied to your ex partner, it can be really hard to love yourself, especially if you have a low sense of self esteem. Hence, you need to shower yourself with love right now as a strong and healthy self-esteem can empower you to get through this difficult phase of life. Accept yourself with all your flaws and weaknesses and tell yourself that it’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to miss your ex.
Show kindness to yourself like you would show to a friend going through a break up because you are your own best friend. Through self-development, self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-respect you can rebuild your self-esteem to the point where you feel comfortable and happy being with yourself without feeling the need to run back to your ex. So take some time off, follow your passions, get some good sleep, watch some of your favorite movies, learn something new, treat yourself to your favorite food and just enjoy the little things in life. Allow this breakup to help you grow into a more independent, confident and happy person.
Look at the positives
“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe
As sad and painful as this breakup with your girlfriend or boyfriend is, this is not the end of the adventure known as love. It’s just another turn in your path that will take you to your intended destination. The place where you will meet the person you are supposed to be with. Relationships are important in life, even the bad ones. They teach us valuable lessons and push us towards the path we are supposed to be on. Appreciate the relationship you had, respect your ex for giving you the love they did, accept that not all relationships are meant to last and move on with life. That’s how it works.