4. You have a tendency to blame.
The fourth thing that makes a man lose interest is when a man notices that you have a tendency to blame.
This is not just about men, it’s something that we notice in general on both sides when someone wants to blame another human being for how they feel.
If you have a tendency to tell men, “you are making me feel this way” without processing your feelings first and realizing that he did something and now you are feeling a certain way.
Instead, you could empathize and think to yourself:
“I’m wondering if those were his intentions.”
“Does this come from past experience?”
“How can I take ownership for how I’m feeling and then communicate it to him in a more loving way rather than blaming and pointing fingers?”
Once again, blaming him is a losing battle for men.
So if he notices you blaming others for your feelings, then it’s going to make him lose interest.
5. You don’t respect him.
Then the fifth thing that causes men to lose interest is when you have a lack of respect for him as a person and as a man.
If a man notices you have a constant habit of making his beliefs wrong or he feels that he’s being falsely accused by you and you’re not showing respect towards him— it won’t feel like a partnership or the right opening to create a relationship.
It’s really important here to look at the way in which we communicate with a man.
Coming from a place of curiosity rather than accusation or defensiveness really makes a big difference. That mindset can actually invite a positive communication with a man rather than having him pull away, shut down and lose interest in you.
6. You lack self-love.
Then the last thing that makes a man lose interest is the lack of self-love for yourself.
Self-love is key. If a man senses that you lack love for yourself and you aren’t willing to do something about that, it’s not his responsibility to create the space for you to love yourself.
You need to source love from within and work on that and have a willingness to really love and appreciate yourself.
Self-love could look like a better body image, learning how to celebrate yourself, feeling good about yourself, removing all perfectionism or working on it.
You need to have that willingness to love yourself and let that show.
The opportunity for you to show love to yourself first and work on loving yourself more every single day means that you won’t blame, project or use all these insecurities to attack him or create separation and drama inside of the potential relationship that is forming.
It’s important for us to be emotionally responsible and really look at what’s going on in the inside because when both sides do this, then you create the space for true intimacy.
Before you go, I want to share some words to tell a man that will make him want to give you the relationship you’ve always dreamed of…
These words form something called a “Love Frame” that makes him feel like it’s his mission in life to treat you like a queen.
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