7. Stop expecting others to be okay.
It is good to want people to be happy, content, and mentally healthy but these do not give you the right to force them to always stay positive instead of trying to understand that they might as well be fighting their own battles.
Being able to accept oneself as we include embracing our strengths as well as our weaknesses. Compassion towards one another will promote much-needed love and kindness around us. Being able to honestly open up to someone is the best feeling in the world, where you can look into the eyes of someone and say “I am fighting a battle within, nobody knows about” and you can reply “Me too.” and be there for each other.
Because accepting your existing darkness is better than being lost in false positivity. It’s okay to not be OK all the time.
8. Stop expecting others to abruptly change.
If your partner or someone close to you needs one of their behaviors to change, don’t expect it to vanish overnight. You need to exercise patience and honesty with them before you want them to change.
Suppose you want your partner to give up on smoking then you need to honestly lay the cards on the table. Discuss and agree on things that can be changed for both partner’s well-being. Appreciate every small achievement of your partner leading to the change.
A person will only change when they realise that every small step they are taking towards the change is being positively reinforced.
On most parts, you should not try to change another individual, especially against their wish. If you can, it’s a good idea to accept them for who they are instead of complaining about what they could have been. If you provide them unconditional acceptance, the change will gradually but surely come to be.
Not everything will go according to plan. That’s what life is about – uncertainty. But to make the best out of the simplest moments in life, you have to stop overthinking about what could have been and live what is happening instead.