3. Stop expecting others to read your mind.
Expecting others to know what might be going on in your mind is a disastrous recipe for miscommunication!
If you stay silent and expect the other person to telepathically understand what you are thinking, you are simply over judging human capacity. Ask yourself, would your partner ever understand you, if you remain grumpy throughout the day, misbehave with him/her, without actually telling him/her what’s wrong?
To add to this, you would probably expect your partner to automatically understand that it was the way he/she behaved with you at the party that caused you to have a bad mood.
The good news is, you can make things simple by speaking up coherently with the other person. You have been gifted with the ability to speak, so you can communicate properly with your fellow friends and foster understanding.
4. Stop expecting others to sacrifice for you.
The act of sacrificing itself is selfless, where you consider other people’s needs, wishes and desires before your own. It comes organically and loses its charm once forced. Is it not usual for people to be concerned about their own preferences before they think of others’ wishes?
It is also extremely inconsiderate and selfish on a person’s part to expect others to give up on things just for them. This might come off as rude, but it is a fact.
Would you give up your favorite things to others in exchange for nothing at all?
If you yourself can’t, you should not expect others to do so too. Most often we take certain sacrifices of other people for granted because we prefer to believe we are entitled to their sacrifices. No. No one is bound to sacrifice for you, but if anyone does, respect that.
5. Stop expecting others to adore you.
In a world where everyone is trying to fit in, the most difficult battle is the battle we fight to love who we are.
There will be times when you will feel extremely worthless, useless, and unwanted to a few people while others will absolutely love you for who you are. Remember? If you do not have people who detest you, you are not doing life right.
Trying to control the preferences of others is sheer foolishness. One good thing you can do is shift your attention from this fault-finding, criticizing people to people who genuinely value the person that you are.
If there’s a dearth of people who love your raw self, know that you have an option to love yourself. Look into the mirror and remind yourself “I deserve self-love, self-care, and compassion. I absolutely freaking love the person I am.”
6. Stop expecting others to comply with you.
Everyone has their own boundaries and when you ask others to comply to you unnecessarily, know that you will surely disappoint yourself.
People set their own personal boundaries keeping in mind what they can entertain and tolerate and what they cannot. Hence it’s your responsibility to respect that. Suppose you ask someone to do something for you and they do not comply. It would break your heart, right?
But why would it? She/he has got all the rights to say ‘no’ to your requests. Don’t make your heart bleed on things which are not in your control.