Narcissists are usually able to trap unsuspecting innocent people who believe others easily. The game of manipulation, exploitation, lying and cheating goes on until the victim goes through a series of eye openers and decides not to keep up with the demands of the egotistical person in their lives. But, usually such awakenings are late, painful and followed by bouts of depression. If you know well what not to expect from a narcissist you can be on a much better footing to deal with these individuals and protect yourself from harm.
Here are 5 things you should never expect from a narcissist:
They are incapable of feeling gratitude. Their self-seeking nature prevents them from giving importance to anyone. Because of their negative attitude, what you haven’t done for you and never mention the things you have. However, they will mention anything they have done for you with flawless accuracy. They would expect you to be thankful for even their smallest effort but conveniently forget kind gestures and good efforts. The narcissist nature is focused on feeling special and the best way to make it happen is by forcing out special treatment form others. So, never expect a narcissist to be grateful no matter what you do for them.
2. Kindness And Selflessness
A narcissist will never do anything for you just like that. If they do anything for you it is just because they need something from you in return. They always keep note of the things they have done for other and make sure to claim it when the right time comes. If a narcissist is being generous to you, understand that it is just a garb they have put on. Selflessness and generosity is absent in their dictionary.
3. Admission Of Guilt
These people think they are perfect and cannot commit mistakes. They are above everyone else and superior in every context. So, you can hardly expect them to accept their mistakes. If anything goes wrong they would be quick to direct it to you. Instead of taking responsibility for their actions, they would attack you and bully you and turn things around. They may even create situations, forge stories and make others believe to project you as the culprit. Know and accept that they will have no guilt or feeling of remorse. They will never apologize because they can never be wrong.
4. Unadulterated Attention
Everything in a narcissist’s life has to be about them. They won’t do anything that doesn’t serve their purpose. They neither care for people nor do they have time to listen to anybody’s problems. Unless the conversation is about them or something that can be useful to them they won’t pay attention to your words. If at all they listen to you, it is because they need something from you. They would listen to you to know your weaknesses so that they can control your mind and make you do things they want.
5. Kindness And Empathy
Narcissists have only one way of looking at everything and that is what they can get from you. They can’t feel empathy and kindness because that would mean moving out of their own world. To be considerate, one has to give importance to others which is impossible for a narcissist. They wouldn’t help you even if you were lying bleeding on the road, unless they know they can get something against the help. Even if they show empathy, it will be done to attract attention. They don’t possess self-insight and that is why they have no feeling of remorse.