Things Narcissists Do



If you dare to question a narcissist or request things like healthy boundaries and honesty, you’re going to become public enemy number one.

The “Mr. or Ms. Wonderful” mask immediately comes off, and there is no level they will not stoop to in order to “punish” you. They have myriad ways of attempting this; some are covert, and some are open and obvious. The narcissist has a seemingly inexhaustible obsession for making people who cross them “pay”. Once they set their sights on you, you’re a permanent enemy, and their seething spite will feel as intense years down the road as it did when it first began. The length of time they can keep up the full intensity of their hatred for you and their campaign to exact revenge is absolutely dumbfounding to non-narcissistic people.



Many mentally disordered individuals project frequently. Narcissists, however, are some of the most actively and severely projecting people encountered.

Ever full of accusations and criticisms, the most crazy-making thing about most of the narcissist’s claims is that YOU are doing exactly what THEY are doing. (Projection.) Have they just lied to you? Well, you’re about to be called dishonest. Are they cheating you out of an opportunity? You’re going to get the finger pointed at you for being sneaky. And you can’t say a word to them about something hurtful they have done, because that makes you an abuser – of them. You can’t give them anything but glowing feedback without their raging at you, but you’ll be the one constantly criticized severely and then called freakishly oversensitive if you show any feelings about it. And if they say so, it’s law — you don’t know what you’re talking about.



Narcissists are allergic to healthy boundaries and fairness.

If you question the insensitive things they do or put any limits whatsoever on their bad behavior, you will be targeted for social, professional, or personal obliteration. Whatever narcissists perceive to be your psychological or situational “weak spots” will be their prime targets. For instance, if the narcissist knows that your greatest fear is social ridicule, that will be the main focus of the smear campaign. If he or she knows that recently, you made a mistake for which you feel guilty, that will be used against you. Narcissists know that the more effectively they can pinpoint your insecurities or flaws, the more successful they will be in eroding your confidence and your influence. And if they manage to do that, they stand a good chance of getting back the power they planned to do whatever they pleased with before you “got in their way”.

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Written by ANA (After Narcissist Abuse)

ANA was developed out of sheer desperation of the human spirit clinging to it?s last bit of hope. Lost and confused after ending a long term relationship that at one point had felt like the greatest ?love? of my life, I struggled to find answers and put a finger on just WHAT IT WAS that had gone so terribly wrong. So desperate was my need for answers, I sat on my therapists couch, tears streaming down my face, begging him to tell me, ?WHAT IS WRONG WITH MEEEEEEEEEEEE. His answer surprised me, and forever changed the way I view this world.? You were in a domestically abusive relationship.??WHAT? I asked in utter shock? But he didn't hit me? He answered with, Not with his fists. You are dealing with a narcissist. You have just ended an abusive relationship with a NARCISSIST. My mind whirled when I heard my therapist name what it was? I began to be flooded with many examples from the narcissist?s behavior that fit what the therapist was telling me. The narcissist lured me into a toxic affair with charm, mind games, promises & flattery ? sold me on a soul mate love that he?d never felt before and then proceeded to take every good thing he could from me; my love, my innocence, my trust, my sense of justice, my kindness, my empathy, my unconditional love, and my good name ? and replaced it with abuse. Lies about me (he told others I was stalking him), got me fired from jobs, created a fake website about me claiming that I was crazy, delusional, a drug addict, and even talked poorly about my children, who he was a father figure to for years. The therapist ran over the list of symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder:Lack of empathy? Check! Boasting about his image? Check! Perfectionism? Check! Lack of boundaries? Check! Expects special treatment? Check! Obsessive Compulsive and sexually perverted? Check! Pathological lying? Multiple serial affairs and cheating? Check! Guilt tripping? Check! Passive aggressive? Check! Possessive, Jealous, downright mean? Check! Controlling. Wouldnt ?allow? me to have feelings or express them? Check! Loved by everyone on the outside but HATED by those who know the real them? Check! I was dating the poster boy for narcissism. For the first time in many years, I finally felt that IT WASNT ME like the narcissist had blamed me for over & over. It explained why I'd never been able to do anything right to earn his love. From that day on, I promised God that if he brought me through the darkness, that I would pay forward the knowledge of everything I learned through my lesson, about the narcissist, their red flags, their abuse, my upbringing with a narcissistic parent, my own vulnerabilities and how to never allow myself to be exploited again by another narcissistic individual; be it a boss, boyfriend, family member or friend. My philosophy is very simple: KNOWLEDGE IS POWER ? I am making available all the knowledge I?ve gained as a result of this experience with a narcissistic abuser in an effort to help empower you and let you know that you are not alone in your suffering. There truly is Light, Life, Love & Laughter after narcissistic abuse, It is my hope for you, that you truly come to know this for yourself.xo,ANA

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